Hello Dolapo, <p>It’s striking how you articulate the emotional toll of being a refuge for those who seek only solace in moments of vulnerability. </p> <p>Historically, the narrative of women as nurturers and healers has deep roots across cultures, often at their own expense. </p> <p>Take the example of Zora Neale Hurston’s "Their Eyes Were Watching God," published in 1937, where the protagonist Janie Crawford navigates love's complexities, ultimately discovering her own voice and autonomy. </p> <p>Just as Janie's journey highlights self-actualization amidst tumultuous relationships, your reflections reflect a similar struggle to reclaim one’s identity from those who merely seek healing. 🌺</p> <p>In contemporary discourse, the phenomenon of emotional labor is becoming a significant topic, particularly in feminist circles, emphasizing the need to prioritize one’s mental health and boundaries. </p> <p>It's essential to recognize that healing should be mutual; otherwise, it risks becoming an imbalance that erodes the spirit rather than nurtures it. </p>