You're right on all counts.

The part about being mean not simply for the sake of it but rather for self-preservation...that's the sad reality of it.

As they say, try to help people and they will try to "open shop" on your head.

The worst are the ones that do that, but will never reciprocate it.

They'll become visibly uncomfortable if you ever try to ask them for help...like you're about to crash their whole world.

So, true It’s wild how fast you have to grow thick skin—especially in a place where kindness is often mistaken for weakness. You start off just wanting to be decent, to treat people well, and before you know it, you’re learning the hard way that “being nice” can paint a target on your back.

And you're right—what you said about Nigerians? So true. That survival mode kicks in quick. It's not even about being mean for the sake of it. No, it’s about self-preservation and protecting yourself.