I see. Lol.

That's interesting.

Yes I would,I’m not someone who’s all about looks so yeah I would love to connect with someone based on deeper qualities rather than physical attraction 🙂

@cyrusmajebi

I see.

That's interesting.

Then I'd say you're one of a few if that's indeed what you prioritize

It's nice to see that there are still people like that.

Last question, and I apologize for stretching this out....

Would you date someone you're not physically attracted to that's well-mannered, smart, and quite successful in life?

Just curious.

Yes I get what you are saying and I agree with you I’ve seen a lot females stay in unhealthy relationships because he’s “handsome” lest I forget the important one he’s “wealthy” and they keep feeding themselves with the lie “I can change him”…….but right now I’m speaking for myself i am boldly saying I place that above everything else …of course you’ve got to look good,smell nice and be well mannered but the way a person speaks matters more to me

@cyrusmajebi

But y'all do it more. Lol.

Am I wrong?

@blessingjoseph

The way they speak. Hmmm. Lol

I'm all for speaking well, intelligence etc.

However...Lol.

I've found that people don't actually place all that stuff above physical attraction...not even personality.

People, particularly women, will even endure things they don't like, and excuse a lot of bad behavior if it's someone they are attracted to....

There's this....dissonance, that exists between what people say they want and their actions...

I'm not trying to come for women in any way..

@cyrusmajebi …….personally I’ve not experienced it and I can’t wait to…..🤧

….. The first thing that attracts me to someone is the way they speak,when they open their mouth and every single word that comes out is filled with pure knowledge and wisdom 🥹🤧yes I care about personality and looks but what’s the use of having those if all that comes out of your mouth is trash,you can’t even have a proper conversation with some pple….you’ll get irritated by what comes out of their mouth 🤧

@thatdarkwriter it is, a feeling like no other.

How would you advice someone that tells you they feel that way about someone...and in 3 weeks, they tell you they are "over it" and they are not sure they ever really felt it for the person..

@blessingjoseph thats a really interesting take, and yes, it does happen that way sometimes.

Has this happened to you personally? If I may ask.

...and, what's the first thing that draws you to someone? Looks? Personality?(after interacting with them for a bit) Aura? Hearing them speak?

I've not felt it but I know somehow,you'll feel it. It's a feeling like no other.

To me I’ld say at first you’ld never know it creeps in when least expect it,to the person you least expect and you find yourself doing things you’ld never normally do and you’d keep on asking yourself why this person? But then you’ve got no answer but you just know it’s that person,you just know that person is your forever person❤️