Change begins from the mind - by Rosemary Adelani

It seems much easier to point out a person's errors and mistakes and give advice to turn over a new leaf, but it seems harder on the path of the one who is to take the action. And yes, it is, especially when there's so much condemnation from people around. Sometimes, the condemnation doesn't come from hatred or dislike but from the number and height of expectations people have for you. But let me give you a "cheat code." Reset and occasionally renew your mind. The first thing to do is to be honest with yourself. Tell yourself the truth. You know that truth, so why not make things easier for yourself? It's amusing how it's possible to not just lie to people but also lie to yourself. You broke the cup, yet you lied about it, and even when you entered your room and you are alone, you still tell yourself, "Was it me that broke the cup? I said I didn't break it, and yet they don't believe me." Isn't that... I don't even know the word to use for it. That was just a common example, actually, but the point is to be truthful to yourself. Then, be intentional about your change. Memories and things you enjoyed doing will come from time to time. They'll come so strongly that you'd want to go back, but you have to consciously put yourself in order. Of course, times will come when you will still fall; the important thing is that you don't stay down. Pick yourself up again. You'll be happy that you disciplined yourself and overcame, and it'll encourage you to keep holding on and pushing until you burst out victorious. Another thing that will really come in handy in the worst-case scenario: choose someone, an accountability partner. Someone to whom you can pour out your plans, and who will help you stay true to them and notify you when you are going against them. Very importantly, do not let anyone look down on you if you are truly and intentionally working your way to be a better person. The more you listen and absorb, the more it feels like you are not trying, and the more you begin to lose strength and zeal to keep pushing until you finally lose hope in yourself. No matter what anyone says, change doesn't happen once; it's a process, so don't let it bring you down. Instead, keep pushing and let your results prove that you have been working on yourself and you are now different. It is a long journey and a painful one, but with discipline, strength, perseverance, and God, you will come out victorious.I'll stop here for now.Thank you for reading Let me know your thoughts or questions in the comment section.

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