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Different Names, One Heart.
<p>Growing up, our names have always felt like threads that weave us into one fabric—soft but strong, carrying the weight of our shared history. Each syllable in our surname holds the echoes of childhood laughter, whispered secrets, and the countless moments that shaped us. It’s a name we’ve carried side by side, like a badge of belonging.</p><p><br/></p><p>Now, the thought of taking on a new surname through marriage feels like standing at the edge of something both beautiful and bittersweet. It would mean stepping into a new chapter, but also watching my name drift away from the matching set we’ve shared all our lives. I imagine family lists where my name no longer appears beside my siblings’, or introductions where my connection to them isn’t immediately visible.</p><p><br/></p><p>At the same time, there's the option of keeping my current surname, and this would bring its own quiet ache—because it would mean my children and I wouldn’t share the same name. The bond between us would still be unshakable, but I can’t ignore how surnames serve as a visible emblem of family, a little signpost to the world that says, “We belong together.”</p><p><br/></p><p>It’s not that the ties between me and my siblings, or me and my future children, would fade—blood, love, and shared memories run far deeper than what’s written on paper. But there’s something powerful about seeing names align, whether when written or said, like a thread running through generations and across family lines.</p><p><br/></p><p>Perhaps, in the end, the name I carry will not erase where I come from but add another layer to who I am—a bridge between the family that raised me and the family I will build. Yet still, I find myself holding onto the comfort of the name that has always linked me to my siblings, wishing I could carry both worlds side by side.</p>
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Different Names, One Heart.
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