GO HOME - by Bu Kun

Sometimes I scroll through TikTok and just laugh. There’s this particular TikToker I follow, she’ll say something funny and we’ll all joke about it in the comment section. But if you really sit down and think about it, there’s always a lesson hiding inside the humor.I watched one of her videos where she said, “E take how you go pound yam reach for man and suffer, God go vex and kpai you.”Funny, right? We laughed. We shared it. We used the sound.But think about it deeply.Some of us are overworking, overloving, over-sacrificing for people who are not even worth the stress. We’re doing too much for people who wouldn’t even lift a finger for us. And sometimes, it’s not even about pounding yam, it’s about pounding your self-worth into the ground just to keep someone.I have a friend. She was constantly body-shamed by her so-called situationship not even her boyfriend. Every single time, this guy would call her and say something demeaning to her. About her body. About her looks. About her worth. Slowly, she started believing those words. That’s the scary part.Anytime he wants something from her, he uses sweet words to cajole her but after getting what he wants, he's back to his usual self.When I asked her why she couldn’t leave, she said, “I love him.”Love?How can you love someone who chips away at your confidence daily?How can you stay where you are constantly reminded that you are not enough?Some guys are simply not worth it. Not worth the tears. Not worth the anxiety. Not worth losing yourself over.There’s this popular TikTok sound that says, “Go home, there’s love at home.”And honestly? That line is deeper than it sounds.Go home.....Go back to the people who love you without conditions.Go back to the version of yourself that existed before someone made you feel small.Go back to your peace.Because sometimes we stay in toxic relationships thinking love is endurance. Thinking love means tolerating disrespect. Thinking love means “managing” pain.But love is not constant humiliation.Love is not daily body shaming.Love is not waking up afraid of what your partner will say today.If you have to shrink yourself to keep someone, that’s not love that’s survival.It’s funny how a TikTok joke can carry such a serious truth: don’t suffer unnecessarily for someone who doesn’t see your value. Don’t let anybody’s words rewrite how you see yourself.And there is a life where you don’t have to beg to be enough!!!!

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