Trail of thought.....🤔 - by Abbas

Hi Soul Anchor 🕊️ I promised to share a trail of thought, and here it is. Just so you know, this is something I’ve been ruminating on for a while now… it keeps coming to mind, so I decided to add it to my Soul Notes.I think one of the lessons I’ve been learning as I gradually step deeper into adulthood is that life can be very consuming. It can turn even the most kind-hearted person into someone who seems heartless, especially if they don’t know how to properly manage their emotions.Growing up, I used to wonder why some uncles chose not to care, or why it felt like the rich stayed within their own circle. I also wondered why the most successful person in a family would choose to stay away and prefer to care from a distance, if they even did at all. What made it more confusing was that some of these people were actually nice while growing up, while some had always seemed a bit callous or self-centered.One thing I’ve learned from my little experience of adulthood is that we make decisions as life goes on. Decisions to let go of certain things, and sometimes, certain people. Not necessarily because we don’t care about them, but because our journeys no longer align. Our perspectives on life become different, and our struggles are not always easily understood by those around us.At that point, instead of love, the relationship may begin to feel draining or even toxic, and some people choose to step back… gracefully. As they do, they might not keep in touch in the long run. Some may reconnect later, but some may not.Another thing I’m learning is that adulthood can place many people around you, yet you still feel like you’re carrying everything alone. Not because you don’t share your problems, but because people don’t always understand. Even the little comfort they offer may not resonate with you. And because of that, some people choose to toughen up and push through life on their own, doing the best they can with what they have.And when they eventually make it to the other side, what we call success, they begin to feel like they got there by themselves. Like no one was really there for them. So they continue life with that mindset: “I did this on my own.”And sometimes, this is how some of those people we call “wicked uncles” are formed. Funny enough, some of them are not actually wicked, but the decisions they’ve made over the years have shaped their mindset, and it has become normal to them.Then the question comes, did others not go through things too?But when I look around now, as I grow into adulthood, I see that our generation is also telling the same story:“Everyone is going through a lot.”“What I’m dealing with is not what you’re dealing with.”“When last did they check up on me?”“Let everyone face their own life.”And over time, these thoughts create distance.We can go months without checking on each other, and it starts to feel normal. But the truth is, those uncles, those relatives, and even those friends who are now distant… they also started like this. Everyone had valid reasons to stay away, and slowly, the gap widened.Sometimes, when you look closely at very successful people, you’ll notice that they are often surrounded more by strangers than by family or close friends.This thought is deep, and honestly, it scares me a bit, not because I’m unsure about my future, but because it feels like a pattern. A pattern that keeps repeating itself in different forms, now even shaped by technology.Here’s my trail of thought…I’m rooting for you, but Jesus is rooting even harder for you.I remain,Abbas Comforted ✍🏽✨

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