Enough with the Labels and sharing

<img alt="" src="/media/inline_insight_image/ChatGPT_Image_Jul_17_2026_02_46_36_PM.png"/> Why do people feel the need to attach a label to everything they do?And while we're at it, why do people feel the need to share absolutely everything? Drinking a bottle of water? "Currently in my wellness era. Just drinking water and minding my business."Shares as streak. No you're not minding your business because somehow you've managed to involve the rest of us. Then, two days later, you'll come online talking about, "There's no privacy on the internet anymore."Girl bye😒You've been live-blogging your life since you woke up. Getting new braids or a haircut?" Time for a glow up y'all. Out with the old and in with the new, haters are gonna hate." Posts to close friends on Instagram. Bruh...No one genuinely cares that much, and I can almost guarantee there are no haters plotting against your boho knotless braids or your taper fade. Got into an argument before work? "Say my name and a b* will have something to say. Can never say it to my face though, too big for them." Shares to WhatsApp status. 😒 I could care less about your arguments, your mysterious enemies or whoever allegedly can't say it to your face. Then there's my personal favourite. "Story time on how my male cousin was lowkey dating a man and he didn't know until later..." As much as I will loooove to hear this story...Nobody asked you for it.And more importantly...,Did your cousin ask for his business to become today's entertainment? That's the part people conveniently forget. We like to believe we're only sharing our own lives online. Most of the time, we're not. We're sharing someone else's heartbreak.Someone else's mistake.Someone else's family problem.Someone else's relationship.Someone else's embarrassing moment. All because it happened to pass through us first. Congratulations.You've become an unpaid gossip correspondent. The funny thing is, we've somehow convinced ourselves that everything needs an era now. You're not reading.You're in your reading era. You're not sleeping eight hours.You're in your rest era. You're not cleaning your room.You're in your reset era. You're not drinking water.You're in your wellness era. You're not ignoring people.You're protecting your peace. Sometimes...You're just drinking water.And that's okay.Not every ordinary thing needs a rebrand. Not every phase of your life needs a title.Not every emotion needs a hashtag. We've become so obsessed with narrating our lives that we've forgotten how to actually live them. It's almost as if an experience isn't real until it's been posted, captioned, filtered and viewed by two hundred people. We've normalised performing our lives instead of simply living them. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying don't share your wins.Celebrate your graduation.Celebrate your birthday.Celebrate your engagement.Tell us you finally got the job you've been praying for.Those are moments worth celebrating. What I'm questioning is our inability to keep anything to ourselves.We've somehow reached a point where making tea requires a photo.Buying groceries requires a vlog.Going to the gym requires a motivational speech.Reading three pages of a book requires announcing that you're becoming "that girl." And if you don't post it...Did it even happen? Apparently not. Ironically, the same people who document every minute of their lives are often the first to complain that social media is toxic, people are too invested in their business, or strangers have too many opinions. Well... You invited them in.You opened the door.You handed them a guided tour.Then acted surprised when they started rearranging the furniture. Privacy isn't dead because the internet exists.Privacy is dying because we've started treating every passing thought, inconvenience, achievement and family discussion as content. Some moments don't need a camera.Some conversations don't need an audience.Some people don't need to become characters in your story just because they crossed paths with you. And some things...Some things become more meaningful simply because they stay between you and the people who lived them. Not everything needs a label.Not everything needs an audience. And for the love of all that is good...Not everything needs to be shared.

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