Men, Be Honest — Why Does a Frying Pan Scare You?

So I was having one of those “men versus women” conversations again and at the risk of sounding antagonistic towards men, or like some kind of misandrist, I’ll admit I tend to challenge men a lot. Especially the ones who may not outrightly identify with certain labels or online communities, but whose beliefs and talking points often lean toward red pill ideology. Anyway, putting that aside for a moment, this particular conversation started after a back and forth on someone’s post on this here “Two Cents.” Can’t quite remember all the details of the post, to be honest – but one “uncle” on the platform tagged me, and his comment definitely made me raise an eyebrow. Then this uncle — I’ll leave their name out — 😏jumped in to argue that men have no business being in the kitchen. For too long. For too long kwa? Which one be this one again? 🤣😩They said that while a man can “help out” occasionally, it becomes unattractive if he’s in the kitchen too much. This argument really got me thinking. What does that even mean? Is there such a thing as being in the kitchen too much? Why is it that when a woman spends time cooking or doing domestic tasks, it’s considered normal or nurturing, but when a man does the same thing, it suddenly becomes questionable or “feminine”?I understand that society has its own outdated standards for what counts as masculine or feminine, but seriously — who decided that cooking is a feminine act? Since when did a basic life skill like feeding yourself become a threat to masculinity? I schooled in Calabar, and let me tell you — that rumour that Akwa Ibom and Cross Riverian people are amazing cooks is no myth. They really are! But you know what blew my mind even more? Their men are just as bad ass in the kitchen as their women, if not better. I had a neighbour whose cooking aroma alone could drag me out of my room to ask, “Oga, watapun na? You wan finish my nostrils?” Sotey I go begin dey beg the oga make e gimme small. That’s how fantastic his cooking was and I bet still is (in whatever part of the world he now currently resides in) I’ve also dated men who were better cooks than me and this skill made them all the more memorable. Let us also not forget the best chefs in the world are men — so shouldn’t this completely shatter the false narrative that cooking is emasculating?Wetin frying pan do some of una? You’ll see Nigerian men on twitter every Eke market day arguing over women cooking like they wee faint if they don’t talk about something else. No wonder una chop apple true true, una too like food! 🤣🤣🤣😩 See! For the fellas who will read this: there is no faster panty dropper than us watching a man shirtless, glistening with sweat, muscles flexing as he works his way around the kitchen. My goodness! Women love that shit! Excuse my French.Just don’t take my word for it — make it a habit to, you know, cook spicy Indomie for your babe from now on. Then one weekend, as you’re wrapped in each other’s arms, ask her seductively, “Baby, o fe spaghetti?” And then come back and testify. You’re welcome. ☺️

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