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If They Only Text Back When They Need Something — Baby, That Ain't Love. That's convenience. Let me tell you something that nobody else will tell you. You’ve been mistaking situationships for actual love. It’s not your fault; we never learned the difference. Think back to the old Nollywood movies we watched growing up. Love was always loud, toxic, and dramatic. It was people screaming in the rain, heavy jealousy masked as "passion", and endless tears. We grew up naturally believing that if it doesn’t hurt or stress you out, it isn't real. But is it genuine love? It operates quietly, consistently, and safely. It never makes you wonder if you matter. Imagine it is 2 a.m. You are spiralling, and everything feels heavy. You pick up your phone not to scroll endlessly, but to call that one person you completely trust. No attitude. No "Why are you calling me at this time?" They just answer, and suddenly, the night doesn't feel so dark. That person isn't just a bae, they are a literal blessing.Yet a lot of us don't have that. We tolerate people who text "wyd" only at midnight, disappear for three days straight, and then reappear as if nothing happened and somehow, we are the ones apologising. 😭<img alt="" src="/media/inline_insight_image/Gemini_Generated_Image_lu6d39lu6d39lu6d.png"/> The Hard Truth If someone truly wants you in their life, they will not leave your text on read for 12 hours. They will not make you feel like an absolute burden for expressing your feelings, and they will not force you to shrink yourself just to keep them comfortable. Love is not a job interview where you keep trying to prove you are qualified. If you have to audition for someone's attention every single day—baby, you are in the wrong room. Our generation is unique. We are the most digitally connected people in history, yet we are arguably the most isolated when it comes to true intimacy. We have created "talking stages", "situationships", and the infamous "we are not official but don’t talk to anyone else" phase. But what happened to real commitment? The kind where someone actively chooses you, especially on your worst days? It’s becoming rare. We have normalised the bare minimum so much that when someone actually treats us right, we think there is something wrong with them. 💀 Real love shows up in the quiet spaces: ☑️ They remember the small things you said weeks ago☑️ They check on you even when you say, "I'm fine," because they know your voice well enough to know you're not.☑️They celebrate your wins authentically, choosing community over jealousy.☑️ They do not make you feel crazy for having human emotions☑️They don't just show up when it's convenient; they show up when it's hard.☑️ Being around them feels like finally exhaling, not like holding your breath. Look at our African parents. Most of them rarely said "I love you" out loud. But they woke up at 4 AM every single day to make sure there was food on the table and worked themselves to the bone to pay school fees. For them, love wasn't a loud declaration, it was a quiet sacrifice and absolute presence. If you have someone in your life who has never made you doubt your worth, don't wait for a special occasion. Reach out and tell them today. People who love you deserve to know they are doing it right. And if you haven't found that yet, do not panic. Do not settle or run back to the person who leaves you emotionally starved. Your person is out there, and they will never make love feel like a burden. Drop your thoughts. What was the exact moment you realised someone truly loved you or completely stopped caring? Drop your experiences below, and if this hits close to home, share it with someone who needs the wake-up call. 👇 Remember to tip me!

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