Being Matured - by Vicmoh

You want to know what I consider maturity? Being in a not so good state but you don’t go out of character. To still be in control of your thoughts, emotions, actions enough to respect and tolerate a person’s excesses that should ordinarily make you lose your cool.<o:p></o:p> Now think of this scenario, you are an adult, of about 25. Fond of playing with a neighbour's kid, (9 years old) most of the time, teasing him and buying him gifts. So he’s sort of a little friend. One day, you are in a bad mood, let’s say you lost your job. He springs up on you, thinking it’s the typical vibe he knows Uncle for. But of course, you are dejected, you can’t see things from his spectrum this time. You would attain maturity that day if you could just smile off his teases and not pour out or show your true emotions to the boy. If he is smart, he can tell Uncle is not as happy as a lark today.<o:p></o:p> I can go on with many scenarios but I believe you get what I mean. True maturity lies when you are tested beyond your limit. How do you turn when you come under pressure? Do you lose it all of a sudden because you are frustrated? You think your friend should understand you lashed out and employed a secret they trusted you with against them because you couldn’t put yourself together?<o:p></o:p> Often times people do good to you or treat you nicely because they are in a good state of mind at the time, or they are motivated by something. Basically they have a tolerance room to have you not see their other side. I am a strong believer of the fact that something always gives in human relationships, be it friend or family. Someone is with you for something.<o:p></o:p> We say Nigerians are helpful, Christians are patient. Wait until they become rich or the things they ask God for comes to fruition. That’s only when you can decide if someone is truly good. <o:p></o:p> And please shove age aside. I know it goes without saying that with growth in age comes maturity, at least that’s what should be in the natural scheme of things. But sadly, humans are different, weird and unimaginable so that theory doesn’t cut it. <o:p></o:p>  Maturity likewise abounds in other scopes of life; intelligent takes, good decision making, highly responsible etc. But for me, this is the threshold to be considered matured I would say. <o:p></o:p>

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