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SACRED THINGS, SHAMEFUL THINGS: MENSTRUATION
<p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p>I hate my period. </p><p><br/></p><p>I hate it being called ‘monthly visitor’.</p><p><br/></p><p>I hate the word ‘virginity’.</p><p> </p><p>And I most especially hate the word ‘menstruation’.</p><p><br/></p><p>Growing up my whole life revolved around some things.</p><p><br/></p><p>Virginity.</p><p><br/></p><p>Menstruation.</p><p><br/></p><p>Marriage.</p><p><br/></p><p>Homeliness.</p><p><br/></p><p>Religion.</p><p><br/></p><p>Manners.</p><p><br/></p><p>And how can I ever forget character development.</p><p><br/></p><p>They came bundled with expectations of what I was supposed to be.</p><p><br/></p><p>And how I was supposed to behave.</p><p><br/></p><p>Trust me it wasn’t fun.</p><p><br/></p><p>‘If I wasn’t homely enough I would be a bad wife to the man I’d marry’.</p><p><br/></p><p>I’m already a bad person so I don’t think there’s changing that.</p><p><br/></p><p>‘If I didn’t learn to cook what and how would my future family eat’.</p><p><br/></p><p>Regardless of the fact that I hate cooking and cleaning.</p><p><br/></p><p>I’d rather starve than cook.</p><p><br/></p><p>It’s tiring.</p><p><br/></p><p>If I am to cook I have to clean.</p><p><br/></p><p>And I hate both activities.</p><p><br/></p><p>Cleaning especially.</p><p><br/></p><p>It’s frustrating.</p><p><br/></p><p>So I came to attribute anything related to it as that.</p><p><br/></p><p>Now I hate them.</p><p><br/></p><p>Most especially ‘menstruation and virginity’.</p><p><br/></p><p>I think the words are cringe.</p><p><br/></p><p>I can’t even pronounce virginity .</p><p><br/></p><p>I hate the pad wearing.</p><p><br/></p><p>The never-ending anxiety of hoping there are no blood stains on my clothes everywhere I go.</p><p><br/></p><p>The pain.</p><p><br/></p><p>And most especially people making stupid jokes about it.</p><p><br/></p><p>It’s unbearable.</p><p><br/></p><p>But of recent I’ve come to embrace it.</p><p><br/></p><p>Something about the whole process just amazes me.</p><p><br/></p><p>Growing up I used to think it was just blood.</p><p><br/></p><p>Something I was shamed for.</p><p><br/></p><p>Something I had to hide.</p><p><br/></p><p>But there’s so much more to it than that.</p><p><br/></p><p>A never ending process happening inside my body quietly and constantly.</p><p><br/></p><p>Something so strong it can influence my looks, my moods, my sleeping pattern, my eating patterns.</p><p><br/></p><p>And to be honest I like it.</p><p><br/></p><p>It makes me feel whole and funny and beautiful.</p><p><br/></p><p>I still hate the words though.</p><p><br/></p><p>They feel weird on my tongue.</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe it was because I was used to them being pronounced sacredly.</p><p><br/></p><p>And honestly I don’t think I can get over it.</p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p>
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