Score |
95
WHY DO WE GENERALIZE SO QUICKLY?
<p><span style="background-color: transparent;">Sometimes, one experience is enough for us to create a rule for everything that comes after it.</span><br/></p><p><br/></p><p>One person hurts us, and suddenly we believe people cannot be trusted.</p><p><br/></p><p>One friend betrays us, and we conclude that friendship is nothing but disappointment.</p><p><br/></p><p>We apply for a job and get rejected, and before long, we start telling ourselves, “I'm not good enough.”</p><p><br/></p><p>But why do we do this?</p><p><br/></p><p>Perhaps because our minds are constantly trying to make sense of the world. We look for patterns. We want to know what to expect so we can protect ourselves from being hurt again.</p><p><br/></p><p>And generalization gives us that feeling of certainty.</p><p><br/></p><p>If one person hurt me, then maybe everyone is dangerous.</p><p><br/></p><p>If one opportunity failed, then maybe every opportunity will fail.</p><p><br/></p><p>If I embarrassed myself once, then maybe I should never put myself out there again.</p><p><br/></p><p>The problem is that one experience can teach us something without becoming the definition of everything.</p><p><br/></p><p>Your last relationship is not every relationship.</p><p><br/></p><p>One bad friend does not represent every friend you will ever have.</p><p><br/></p><p>One rejection doesn't mean you are incapable.</p><p><br/></p><p>And one bad day doesn't mean you have a bad life.</p><p><br/></p><p>Sometimes, we take a single chapter and use it to write the ending of an entirely different story.</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe we need to become more careful with the conclusions we draw from our experiences.</p><p><br/></p><p>Instead of saying, “People are terrible,” perhaps we can say, “That person treated me badly.”</p><p><br/></p><p>Instead of, “I'm a failure,” perhaps, “This attempt didn't work.”</p><p><br/></p><p>The difference may seem small, but it leaves room for something important:</p><p><br/></p><p>possibility.</p><p><br/></p><p>Not everything that happened before has to happen again.</p><p><br/></p><p>Sometimes, healing means learning from our experiences without allowing them to become our prison.</p>
9
Referral Earning
Points-to-Coupons
Insights for you.
485 views
61 upvotes
59 comments
Instincts
It's telling me, it's telling meGotten shut off a million timesBut, it's still telling ...
286 views
47 upvotes
34 comments
The Cage Called Her
You are her....Hidden..Wanting so badly to be and not be...Afraid of being seen, Yet cr...
309 views
41 upvotes
26 comments
Why Luxury?
If I brought you two bags right now;A Chanel bag and a Tote bag sewn by a roadside tail...
100 views
22 upvotes
24 comments
Shut Down
Look at him...not bleeding…but burning.Because bleeding is mercy.Bleeding means somethi...
235 views
22 upvotes
24 comments
THE ALGORITHM RUNS THE SOCIETY NOW.
Seveentin!Yeah like she couldn’t spell it.It’s SEVENTEEN I know how to spell, before yo...
163 views
25 upvotes
24 comments
Maybe; Just Maybe...
Maybe; just maybe, life has a funny way of reflecting you.Like a shattered mirror revea...
171 views
24 upvotes
21 comments
TRAUMA😣💊😊
"Get out of my house, you have no place in this world.""Why is she so quiet? She's dang...
368 views
20 upvotes
13 comments
The Main Character Effect.
Have you ever walked past a mirror, caught your reflection, and immediately fixed your ...
104 views
22 upvotes
21 comments
Dear (not) me,
If truly, a universe parallel to ours exists, I hope the version of me there is a much ...
117 views
18 upvotes
19 comments
Comments