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Freelance writer and Digital marketer @ I work remotely
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Dear people pleasers, this is for you!
<p>Not everyone will like you.</p><p>Above is a painful truth that you must get used to.</p><p>I am a recovering chronic people-pleaser. In the past, I wanted people to like me so badly that I lied, acted cool, and said some words just for “Approval.”</p><p>I also used to be bothered about what people would think. “Oh, if I post this picture, would people think it’s cute? What if I don’t give an inappropriate joke at a party? Is my hair good enough for everyone?”</p><p>I loved living for people. Then I found out that it’s a terrible, exhausting, and time-consuming way to live.</p><p>I believe that it’s good to impress people, but not to the extent that they become your top priority in life or that you forget your values in the pursuit of approval.</p><p>As a former people pleaser, I always considered others before making a decision. I might want to leave a job, and suddenly I think about how the person would survive without my services. Meanwhile, this employer may not be thinking of me at all. I guess that’s the price you pay for being an overly empathetic person. I mean, it is good to consider people, but not too much. It’s amusing how if you continue to put people first in your life, they become so entitled and expect a LOT from you.</p><p>Honey, I love you, but not that much.</p><p>Now I’ve gotten to the stage where I know my actions or words can piss anyone off, and there is nothing I can do about it. I just have to worry about doing and saying the right thing, being honest, respectful, and true to myself.</p><p>Growing up means that you can change only what is in your control, and leave all that is out. I still have a lot of growing up to do, especially when it comes to having tough skin.</p><p>I am my priority. What matters is what I think of myself, and even though I have a few screws loose, I cry excessively, and I get a little bit passive-aggressive, I am a diamond in the rough.</p><p>A work in progress. We all are. God is still writing our stories and molding us to the kind of person he wants us to be for his glory!</p><p>So, live for yourself and more importantly, GOD.</p>
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