They want me to Japa, Marry, and Buy Mansion (All Inside This Economy?)

Happyyyyy Mondayyyyy! I'm in a cheery mood today, only because I'm going to kick Monday in the behind, not the other way around, and that's the mentality you should have! Today is going to be a good day!Before you get busy, let's talk about the pressure that comes with adulthood. I finished NYSC in May, and right after, my parents started asking all sorts of questions. And if you live in an African home, you know exactly what I mean.The Marriage plan, the employment, the master's plan, the Japa plans.Keep in mind, I had just finished NYSC. I had a plan, but I really needed a small mental break, but everyone thought that it was nice to remind me of things I haven't done yet. That's the kind of pressure adulthood brings.I'm starting to realise there's no set timeline for adulthood, and honestly, anyone who acts like there is should get a fine.Or a knock on the head.Respectfully.Lately, it feels like we all have this invisible timer following us around. You know what I mean, you're just living your life, maybe eating akara, and suddenly that voice in your head says, "Shouldn't you have a house by now? Look at you, gaining tummy weight and not starting a business. Look at you, no relationship, no dating, just existing like an amoeba."That last part makes me laugh a bit.But I've learned how to quiet those voices- in my head and out. Adulthood isn't a race, and there's no prize at the finish line. Achievements come at different times for everyone. Not everyone gets married at 25 or 30; some people find love at 40. Some wait years for a child, even if they marry early. Some start a business at 20, and it doesn't work out, while others start at 40 and succeed.Adulthood is not a one-size-fits-all situation. Trying to fit your life into society's timeline or another person's timeline only leads to burnout and constant worry. You might even start to dislike yourself for not moving as fast as others, or blame God, even though your own timeline is meant just for you.This doesn't mean you should let life pass you by or miss out on opportunities. It just means you shouldn't compare your life to others. What matters is finding a healthy balance. Damn, I sound like I actually have sense, like sense-sense (if you get what I mean)But yes, keep setting goals and working toward them, but check in with yourself to make sure you're not just chasing what others call success. That way, you can stay motivated and focused without falling into the trap of comparing yourself or feeling left out.Don't let society's panic make you feel behind or pressure you. You're right on time, and if you ever doubt it, I hope God helps you see your blessings and track record.Now, say it with me," I am growing at my own pace, and that's enough. I will do everything at God's time. I am not bound by negative patterns or delay. I will not be lazy in life. I have a great ass."That last one is very important because big-bum-bum people pressure some of us, too. The audacity!Now, have a beautiful day and let God move.From the One who will never be pressured,Twi-Twi.

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