You tell me - by Nyx Keira

"They weren't compatible with me, so we ended the friendship", "We don't vibe together anymore", "I don't like the attitude they started giving off, so we cut ties"...These are quite familiar sentences. We've heard them, read them, and some of us might have even uttered them. But where do all these words, viewpoints and expressions stem from? Self-preservation. Simple as that.Which is actually a good thing. Self-preservation saves not only our physical health, but also our emotional personality and mental wellbeing. And subconsciously, self-preservation is one of the factors we consider when choosing friends. No one... at least no one normal, wants a friend that constantly talks over them, walks over them, pushes down their ideas and opinions, and reduces their self-esteem. This is all out of a need to preserve who we are.Then there's selfishness, which is a term I'm pretty sure everyone knows. Or at least is familiar with. Nobody likes a selfish person. At least nobody normal. Recently, I had a chat with a little friend of mine, and as she spoke (mainly about how she and another girl are no longer friends), I realised just how thin the line between self-preservation and selfishness is."I keep my circle close", "I change for no one", "Anybody that tries to force me to change is out of my life". These views aren't bad necessarily. They are common sentences too. But, are they selfish sentences? Is it all about me? About myself? About staying the way I am no matter what? All of a sudden, nobody cares if the way they are is harmful to the person beside them.And when someone comes along and points out that the way you are is a problem, boom! That person is toxic. Controlling. Needs to get out of our lives. Out of our circles. We need to preserve ourselves...(Do we even take a moment to reason on what the person says?)There is nothing wrong with keeping our circles close. But... we should ask ourselves, 'this close circle of ours, is it filled with truth, or is it filled with people that fuel our desire to 'stay the way we are'?'Granted, not everyone who comes to 'help' is actually there to help. Some may want to shape you for their own convenience. Some may try to bend you to fit their own puzzles. But you are a person, not a tool. A person with a functional brain and thinking pattern.See, as humans, we want to preserve ourselves. And it can't be helped, we are made that way. We have values and standards that may differ from others. But are there values wrapped around us? Are they upbuilding to those around? Are we trying to preserve ourselves, or are we trying to be selfish?What's your take on this?You tell me.

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