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In Literature, Writing and Blogging • 2 min read • Sep 28, 2024 13:18p.m.
FORGIVENESS HAS A COST
<p style="text-align: justify; ">Over the past few weeks, I have been pondering the concepts of forgiveness and taking responsibility for our actions. Which should we truly prioritize? More often than not, people discuss forgiveness and suggest that failing to forgive can hinder us from experiencing many positive aspects of life. Lately, I have encountered numerous sermons and speeches on forgiveness, highlighting its importance when two or more &nbsp;individuals find themselves at odds. </p><p style="text-align: justify; ">While I am not against forgiveness, I believe it has been overly emphasized to the point where it has become a norm, leading people to feel entitled to forgiveness regardless of their actions. Both forgiveness and taking responsibility are essential in fostering a healthy relationship. However, I assert that taking responsibility should be prioritized. Without accountability, forgiveness may feel empty or forced. Taking responsibility should be regarded as a moral and ethical duty, followed by forgiveness, which allows for healing and growth on both sides. Prioritizing forgiveness over taking responsibility can lead to enabling harmful behaviour, undermining trust, and emotional repression, which could result in unresolved anger trauma. Additionally, it may perpetuate injustice and inequality, damage the self-worth of the person wronged, and prevent offenders from reflecting on their actions and learning from their mistakes. </p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Taking responsibility involves owning up to one’s actions, being honest, acknowledging harm, and actively seeking to make amends. Without accountability, the healing process remains incomplete, and the hurt individual may struggle to move forward genuinely. When it lacks the balance of taking responsibility, forgiveness can lose its transformative power and instead become a way to avoid confronting difficult but necessary truths. </p><p style="text-align: justify; ">In a nutshell, we must strive to strike a balance between forgiveness and taking responsibility for our actions. Both elements are crucial, but accountability should take precedence to ensure genuine healing and growth. </p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p>
FORGIVENESS HAS A COST
By Emetekefe Akpovwovwo
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