GenZ Lovers - by Richard Idoko

<h2>Modern Love Is a Job Interview—And You're Not the Only Applicant</h2> ‎Let’s stop the fantasy:‎‎She’s not “yours.”‎She’s exploring her options.‎And you’re just one tab in the browser.‎‎Modern love isn’t romance.‎It’s recruitment.‎‎And if you don’t keep performing?‎‎You’ll get ghosted like a bad candidate.‎‎Let’s break it down:‎‎---‎‎1. No Woman Is Ever Truly Single‎‎She says: “I’m healing.”‎‎But check her phone.‎‎There’s a lineup of old flings, new fans, and backup plans.‎‎– A man who checks in at midnight‎– Another who sends her Uber Eats‎– And one who just “gets her”‎‎She’s juggling more attention than a celebrity on tour.‎‎But to you?‎‎She’s “figuring things out.”‎‎Don’t be naive.‎‎She's not waiting.‎‎She’s shortlisting.‎‎---‎‎2. Hypergamy Never Sleeps‎‎She’s not loyal to you.‎‎She’s loyal to better.‎‎You give her peace?‎‎She’ll crave excitement.‎‎You give her stability?‎‎She’ll miss the chaos.‎‎You offer commitment?‎‎She’ll still wonder what it feels like to be with someone taller, richer, wittier, or more dominant.‎‎She’s not comparing men.‎‎She’s comparing upgrades.‎‎You’re not dating a woman.‎‎You’re competing in an auction.‎‎---<img alt="" src="/media/inline_insight_image/IMG-20250612-WA0003.jpg"/>‎‎3. You’re a Resume—She’s the Employer‎‎You think you’re vetting her?‎‎She’s scoring you.‎‎She’s measuring:‎‎– How fast you reply‎– How deep your pockets go‎– How “emotionally intelligent” you are‎– How well you match the fantasy‎‎One slip-up?‎‎You’re disqualified.‎‎She’ll never say it—but the job was filled days ago.‎‎She just needed someone to hold her over.‎‎---‎‎4. She'll Let You Build—Then Leave You for the Penthouse‎‎You thought you were special.‎‎You paid the bills. Planned the future. Made sacrifices.‎‎But you weren’t the destination.‎‎You were the construction worker.‎‎She used your love as scaffolding.‎‎And once her “healed era” was complete?‎‎She moved in with someone else.‎‎This is the new game:‎‎– You build.‎– She grows.‎– Another man harvests.‎‎---‎‎5. If She’s Not Pursuing You—She’s Not Sold‎‎Here’s the truth:‎‎The right woman chooses you back.‎‎She invests. She submits. She aligns.‎‎Not just when it’s convenient—but when it costs her ego.‎‎If she’s constantly pulling away, testing you, disrespecting you?‎‎She’s not undecided.‎‎She’s uninterested.‎‎Don’t beg for attention.‎‎Withdraw your application.‎‎---‎‎6. Love Bombing Is the New Bait‎‎She’ll gas you up:‎“You’re different.”‎“I’ve never felt this before.”‎“I see forever with you.”‎‎But the moment you relax?‎‎She withdraws.‎‎This wasn’t affection.‎It was a sales pitch.‎‎And once she gets the ring, the password, or the apartment key?‎‎The mask falls.‎‎And you’re left wondering what happened to the woman you fell for.‎‎Answer?‎‎She was never real.‎‎---‎‎Final Word: She’s Not Looking for Love—She’s Shopping for Leverage‎‎So here’s your warning:‎‎Don’t build with a woman who treats you like a placeholder.‎‎Don’t fall for the one who sees romance as a rewards system.‎‎And never, ever mistake loyalty for convenience.‎‎Because in modern love?‎‎You’re not a husband in training.‎‎You’re a job applicant on borrowed time.‎‎And if she’s not seeing you as her final destination?‎‎She’s already planning her next move.‎‎Stay wise.‎‎Stay valuable.‎‎Withdraw before you're discarded.‎‎‎

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