TwoCents | Otilo (Izz gone)

It always starts with a thought and then a taste. As much as we can all agree that appetite is inherent in humans, I strongly believe that it is learned. Also, when you constantly feed that thought with meat, it becomes a part of your being or identity. The appetite for certain things gets heightened over time, and the inability to satisfy those desires could lead to anxiety. I guess that's why addicts always find a way back to their poison. It reminds me of the prodigal son fleeing to the streets because of Sapa! A few days back, I saw a young boy in his early twenties waiting patiently for a BRT bus so he could end his precious life. Thank God, and thank those who approached him and dragged him off the road. It was clear that he was under influence. To put it another way, otilo! My Yoruba is rusty, but I could pick off comments about him being a chronic smoker and alcoholic who spent most time hanging out with his peers, who are obviously birds of a feather. It took a lot of convincing to get him stable, and he was still trying to force his way back to the express. Even in his high state, he could recall his parents' phone number, which was quite cute! After his highness took a bow, he regained his sanity, and reality hit him again. He started showing signs of remorse and was in tears. I'm no sadist, but I've seen things like this on several occasions, so I wasn't moved by his tears. Yeah, the tears are not a guarantee of change. His father arrived on the scene and didn't seem very surprised at his folly. I may be wrong, but I could tell his dad drinks and smokes. In my mind, I said, "Like father, like son!" Let's be real, yeah. Who do we blame—the boy or his dad? Most of the time, we jump to conclusions and assume that peer pressure is the primary cause of societal problems, but this is almost always incorrect. Cheers to parents for all they do, but they have to do better. What's the point of your grind as a parent if your children, humanity's hope, end up wayward or become a threat to society? The money you provide after toiling is no guarantee that your kids have character. Sometimes you have to stop telling parables and start living them. Quit the blame game and do better. In the end, we are all models for others to follow. And I believe you, young men, can tell right from wrong. Make yourself and your parents proud. Let the fear of missing out not lead you out of the promised land! I believe "restraint is what keeps us free." Your taste buds fit carry you go where you no know! Just because it's cool doesn't mean it can't get you burned! This doesn't stop you from enjoying your life as a young person. Let us put an end to the myth that a chilled life must contain traces of vice. If you think these thoughts are unrealistic, I dare you to be better. The truth is, that young man was lucky to have people around to stop him from ending his life, so he technically has a second chance. Not everyone is that lucky. If you're hooked on something that can get you in trouble, give yourself a second chance today. Children are our responsibility and our hope. Never forget that. Learn Unlearn Relearn

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