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Adedeji Adeoba
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In Relationships • 3 min read • Jun 03, 2025 07:08a.m.
The Finished Man
<p>She called him the “lover boy, a finished man’</p><p>The kind who sends good morning texts at 5:59 a.m. just to be first.</p><p>Who books Bolt rides before she asks.</p><p>He didn’t wait for love to happen — he gave it room to breathe.</p><p>He met Temitope (not real name) and fell fast — maybe too fast.</p><p>After just a couple calls, he had started personalizing her as his.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>He built routines around her: regular night calls, random calls and texts while at work.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>He wasn’t rich, no.</p><p>But he loved loudly.</p><p>Softly.</p><p>Generously.</p><p><br></p><p>Temitope on the other hand had goals on a whiteboard. Dreams with Excel timelines.</p><p><br></p><p>She liked him — his heart, his attentiveness, the way he made her feel seen.</p><p>But something always felt off for her.</p><p><br></p><p>And one night after a serious conversation (MPR style), she let it spill:</p><p><br></p><p>“You’re a great guy… but I don’t think you’re career-driven. You’re just… too comfortable.”</p><p><br></p><p>Then she paused, and hit the part that stung most:</p><p>“Also, I feel like you’re not even saving. You just spend anyhow — even on me. That’s not wise.”</p><p><br></p><p>That broke him.</p><p><br></p><p>Because the food wasnt just good — it was affection.</p><p>The Bolt rides weren’t a waste — they were care.</p><p><br></p><p>These were his ways of showing love in a world where he had little else to give.</p><p><br></p><p>He was building something — a relationship that felt safe and real.</p><p><br></p><p>She didn’t see it that way.</p><p>She saw a man pouring from an empty cup.</p><p>A man without a financial “plan.”</p><p><br></p><p>A man who hadn’t saved for her, but was still spending on her.</p><p><br></p><p>So she left.</p><p><br></p><p>And just like that, he became the “Finished Man.”</p><p><br></p><p>He ghosted friends for a while.</p><p><br></p><p>He fell ill and lost some weight.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>The smiles faded.</p><p><br></p><p>But over time, he began to understand:</p><p>She wasn’t entirely wrong.</p><p>He did need to get serious.</p><p>Not because she left, but because he finally saw himself in the mirror — loving with good intentions but no structure.</p><p><br></p><p>Now?</p><p>He’s building. Slowly. Quietly.</p><p>He’s still soft, but wants to get smarter.</p><p>Still generous, but wiser.</p><p><br></p><p>He no longer wants to spend to prove his love.</p><p>He wants to invest— in himself, his future, and eventually, in someone who sees that love isn’t a spreadsheet.</p><p><br></p><p>Because if there’s one thing heartbreak taught him, it’s this:</p><p><br></p><p>Some people will only love you for who you could become — not for who you already are.</p><p>And that’s okay.</p><p>But next time, he’ll choose someone who sees both.</p>
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