TwoCents | The Shadows We Inherit

In the intricate web of human relationships, it's not uncommon to encounter individuals who wear multiple masks. They effortlessly switch between the guise of a loving friend, family member, or confidant, only to reveal their true intentions: to exploit and manipulate. This paradox raises fundamental questions about the nature of love, loyalty, and the human condition. The scenario you described, where someone claims to be a brother but withholds guidance and support, is a poignant illustration of this phenomenon. It's as if they're saying, "I love you, but only to the extent that it serves my interests." This calculated approach to relationships is a stark reminder that, in the words of the Nigerian proverb, "A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth." So, what drives this behavior? Is it an inherent flaw in human nature, or is it a product of our environment and societal pressures? The answer lies in the complex interplay between individual motivations, cultural norms, and the pursuit of power. In Nigeria, where community and family ties are deeply ingrained, it's not uncommon for individuals to prioritize their own interests over the well-being of others. This can be attributed, in part, to the country's challenging economic landscape, where survival often depends on one's ability to navigate complex networks of patronage and clientelism. However, this doesn't excuse the behavior. Rather, it highlights the need for a nuanced understanding of the factors that contribute to these actions. It's essential to recognize that people are complex, multifaceted beings, driven by a mix of altruistic and self-serving motivations. The masks we wear are often a reflection of our deep-seated desires, fears, and insecurities. They can be a coping mechanism, a way to navigate the complexities of human relationships, or a means to achieve power and control. But when we prioritize our own interests over the well-being of others, we risk damaging the very relationships that sustain us. As the Nigerian saying goes, "When the wind blows, the chicken's bottom is exposed." Ultimately, our true intentions and motivations will be revealed, and it's up to us to choose whether we want to wear the mask of selfishness or the cloak of genuine love and compassion. In a world where priorities are constantly shifting, it's essential to recognize that our relationships are not a zero-sum game. When we choose to uplift and support others, we not only enrich their lives but also our own. As the great African philosopher, Ubuntu, reminds us, "I am because we are." And so, as we ponder the intricacies of human relationships, we're left with a haunting question: Why must we always choose between individual success and collective prosperity? Why can't we envision a world where wealth, power, and resources are not scarce, but abundant, and available to all? Why can't we be rich together – not just in wealth, but in love, compassion, and genuine human connection?

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