Most times when a marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage. At this point, they regret marrying their wife or husband and begin to think of a new partner, imagine marrying their ex, or fantasize about marriage without issues.
Some even divorce or remarry and later wish they had remained with their first Spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new spouse. This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet.
So you can remarry as many times as you like, and still experience problems in marriage until you discover the mistakes you are making in your marriage and correct them.
So divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marriage. When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it, but change the tire and move on.
When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut off our head but take care of the headache., even when a bulb blows in the room we do not change the room or the house, we replace the bulb and light up the room instead.
Even when we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there to solve the problem and so-called challenge.
Most of the time when we see some couples enjoy their marriage and enjoy each other to the fullest, we admire and cherish them, but why is the opposite seen in yours? The reason is this, some people have paid the required and necessary price to see it work, and that is why they are enjoying the fruit of their labor. The very adage we know is that “The way you lay your bed so you lie on it”
Our marriage is as good or sweet as we make it. Some couples, because of the negative things they te seeing in the marriage accuse each other and start point blaming fingers on each other
Let have it in mind that your habit is the mistake
Your character is the mistake
Your manner, anger, unforgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, and infidelity are the mistakes.
So I implore we get up now and build our marriages because it was not a mistake when you decided to marry your partner in the first place. Divorce or separation is never the best option.
May God bless all marriages.