<p><br></p><p>One of the most frustrating things about arguments today is that they’ve shifted from being opportunities to learn into heated battles where the goal is simply to win. </p><p><br></p><p>Now, you might be thinking, "<strong>But isn’t that the nature of arguments?"</strong></p><p><br></p><p>No, it's definitely not!</p><p><br></p><p>An argument is not a display of eloquence or intelligence. The goal should be to exchange perspectives, not to dominate the conversation and turn it to a word- wrestling match.</p><p><br></p><p>I’ve engaged in enough arguments to realize that most people aren’t interested in understanding—they just want to prove they’re right.</p><p><br></p><p> That’s why you’ll never find me in heated conversations—except for structured ones like debates, where at least I get the chance to express myself without being cut off in anger or by emotions. </p><p><br></p><p>And...</p><p><br></p><p>The most difficult kind of person to argue with is someone who doesn’t know, doesn’t realize they don’t know, and isn’t open to seeing beyond their current perspective. </p><p><br></p><p>Oops! </p><p>I hope I haven’t lost you yet. </p><p><br></p><p>No matter how much effort you put into helping them see from your point of view, they keep dragging you in circles. </p><p><br></p><p>They are so fixated on what they believe, and the funniest part? What they <strong>know</strong> is often based on shallow or outright false information. </p><p><br></p><p>I remember once telling someone, "<em style=""><strong>You can't win an argument with me." </strong></em></p><p><br></p><p>Surprised, he replied, "<strong><em>Oya, bring it on—I will win!</em>"</strong></p><p><br></p><p>I just smiled and said, "<strong><em>When I say you can't win, I don’t mean I will defeat you. I mean I won’t engage in an argument for the sake of proving who is better at arguing, it's not a win-win thing for me, If I want that I would go contest for a debate, at least I would get a price."</em></strong></p><p><br></p><p>For me, it’s simple: I will state my facts and allow you to state yours. The moment you interrupt me or start arguing just to dominate, I leave. There’s no trophy for winning an argument, so why should I stress? </p><p><br></p><p>Once you share your point, I will analyze it and respond. </p><p>But, one thing I won’t do is argue just for the sake of <strong>winning</strong>. </p><p>My aim is to communicate my beliefs and listen to yours. If you convince me, great. If not, I’ll present my facts and leave it at that. </p><p><br></p><p>If you don’t accept my perspective, that’s fine—I won’t force you. </p><p>I’ll simply move on. </p><p>Dazzal!!</p><p>Have you ever been in an argument where the other person wasn’t listening—just waiting to fight you back with words?</p><p>How do you handle people who refuse to consider another point of view, no matter how logical it is?</p><p>I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section!</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><br></p>
When Arguments Stop Being A...
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Elizabeth Toluwanimi Olawale
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