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<span class="html-content"><p><span class="html-content"></span></p><p>I like ladies. I said that with my full chest. Besides, what's not to like? From how they are able to keep you smiling even when you're pissed (even if na dem vex you sha) or how their warmth just makes you feel like you're in heaven. Imagine a world without ladies. </p><p>It'll be full of sausages! </p><p>I hope you didn't get that! I'm sure there are others who like ladies and act it out. I remember my neighbor and his babe's situationship. There were several violent nights, and I was certain he would be on Santa's naughty list. I can recall the number of times he beat her up. Hold on. She was well off and had a steady source of income, but she always returned. I kept wondering why she stayed. Is it that people enjoy pain, or have they been hurt so much that they can't get enough of it? </p><p>Abi, is it a turn-on? </p><p>I remember this one time he threw an iron rod at her, and it just missed her face. Imagine the damage that could have been caused. The crazy thing is that she still came back that night. Don't ask me how I know! I heard her voice! I'm sure you've heard of other similar cases where the guy consistently abuses the lady and she still sticks with him. I don't think that's love. In fact, it's the epitome of evil. I mean, a reasonable adult can tell if someone is right or wrong for them. Maybe they are big on the tricky narrative of no pain, no gain. </p><p>If he beats you, he doesn't love you. Abi violence na him love language?</p><p>It's also appalling how some women advise other women to endure in the hope that the man will change. </p><p>What a gender! </p><p>He may change after beating you to death. Some people are so afraid of what others will think of them if they leave their partners that they never leave them. I understand that society supports a lot of bad things and that we have learned to be silent, but I recommend that you speak up. </p><p>"Silence is learned." </p><p>Yeah, so report to the appropriate authorities—the police. I'm sure you're skeptical about the police, and I can relate. It's all part of the problem because they are not perceived as being responsible or professional. This makes hope seem bleak. We won't rid ourselves of intimate partner violence if we don't report these cases. Underreporting doesn't help anyone. I think those who stay silent should ask themselves if it is worth it. I know that it's dangerous to put hands in man-woman matters, but let's do the right thing. Free yourself from the chains of false love. The government equally has to do more regarding the implementation of laws on intimate partner violence. A few examples here and there should discourage potential abusers. If measures are not put in place, the plight of women will continue. Yes, I advocate for women, even though I am aware that men are also victims of domestic violence. </p><p>"Dear ladies love intelligently."</p><p>Love is not in the pain. Love with your heart and brain. If you no use your head, dem go help you use am.</p><p></p> <p></p><p>I'll like to hear your thoughts on why ladies stay in toxic relationships.</p><p><br></p><p></p> <p></p><p>More love, less ego</p><p></p> <p></p><p>Learn Unlearn Relearn</p> <p></p> </span>
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