Why must it be men ? - by Queen Rahima

Why must it always be men?Why is the man called the head of the family before the family even exists?Why is leadership handed to him by tradition, while obedience is handed to her like a duty she never applied for?From childhood, we are taught rules we did not write.A boy is told, “You are the head.”A girl is told, “You must submit.”No one asks if the boy is wise enough or if the girl is capable of leading. The roles are assigned before character is even formed.Society says a man must lead because he is stronger.But is strength only in muscles?Is there no strength in endurance, in patience, in nurturing, in sacrifice—the things women practice daily without applause?A man is called the head, yet many women are the backbone.They wake early, sleep late, carry emotional weight, raise children, hold families together, and still are expected to bow to decisions they had no voice in.Why must guidance come from gender instead of wisdom?Religion, culture, and tradition are often used as shields—“This is how it has always been.”But history is full of things that “have always been” until someone questioned them.Slavery “had always been.”Silencing women “had always been.”Does age make an idea right, or does truth?Why must a woman shrink her voice so a man can feel taller?Why must her ambition be called pride while his is called leadership?When a man speaks firmly, he is respected.When a woman does the same, she is called stubborn, disrespectful, or difficult.Not all men lead well.Not all women are meant to follow.Yet society rarely allows exceptions.A woman who questions authority is seen as rebellious, not thoughtful.A woman who wants equality is told she wants to “be a man.”But this is not about replacing men.It is not about hatred.It is about fairness.Leadership should come from responsibility, wisdom, and compassion—not gender.Submission should be a choice, not a sentence.Partnership should be mutual, not hierarchical.Families thrive not because a man is above a woman, but because both are valued.Homes are stronger when voices are heard, not silenced.Love grows where respect is shared, not demanded.So why must it be men?Why can it not be whoever is capable?Why can it not be both?Perhaps the real question is not why men are the head—but why we are afraid of a world where women are equally trusted to lead.

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