Wife Material Needs The Right Tailor

<h2>To Every Potential Husband </h2> Modern Men Want Women as Finished Products‎But come to the table as broken tools.‎‎Let’s talk straight: 🤔‎‎Men say they want “submission,” “peace,” “support”...💪🏾‎‎But what they really want is a woman who already thinks like them, obeys like a soldier, and requires zero effort to lead. 🫡‎‎They don’t want a wife. 🧖🏾‎‎They want a pre-programmed helpmate—factory reset, no bugs, and zero personality conflicts.‎<img alt="" src="/media/inline_insight_image/FB_IMG_1749294032677.jpg" style='background-color: transparent; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;'/>‎Let’s dismantle that nonsense.‎‎—‎‎1. She’s Not Broken—She’s Just From a Different Factory‎‎You say she’s disrespectful.‎But that tone? That language? That attitude?‎‎It’s what her father accepted. What her mother modeled. What her culture normalized.‎‎No matter how well-trained she is—she’s trained for someone else’s system.‎‎You don’t get to demand she arrive “perfect.”‎You train. You shape. You guide.‎‎That’s what real husbands do.‎‎If she’s unteachable? Leave. 🏃🏾‎‎But if she’s willing?‎‎Your job is to customize—not criticize.‎‎—‎‎2. You’re Not a Lab Product—You’re a Walking Mess‎‎You want a Proverbs 31 woman.‎But you’re acting like a broken verse.‎‎You’re not calm—you’re reactive.‎Not stable—you’re distracted.‎Not healed—you’re hiding childhood trauma behind gym selfies and business quotes.‎‎You say women should “come correct.”‎But you?‎‎You’re a cocktail of lust, ego, and unearned expectations.‎‎She’s not dealing with a man.‎She’s surviving a man-child who thinks cash replaces character.‎‎—‎‎3. There’s No Leadership Without Sacrifice‎‎You call yourself a leader?‎‎Then bleed like one.‎‎Because a husband is a shepherd, not a tyrant.‎‎A builder, not a beggar of obedience.‎A protector, not a dictator with ego.‎‎You can’t demand submission without first offering direction, safety, and stability.‎‎You want a wife?‎‎Die to self.‎Lead with honor.‎And love her into becoming.‎‎Or go join a monastery.‎‎—‎‎4. Every Woman Is a Gold Digger—And So Are You‎‎You’re mad she wants security?‎‎You want beauty.‎You want peace.‎You want sex on demand.‎You want warmth, home-cooked meals, and loyalty.‎‎That’s a transaction too.‎‎The problem isn’t that she wants something.‎The problem is you think you shouldn't have to give.‎‎A real man gives—willingly.‎To the right woman? He pours.‎To the wrong woman? He walks.‎‎But don’t pretend relationships are built on pure vibes and no investments.‎‎That’s a broke man’s delusion.‎‎—‎‎5. You Can’t Condemn Women While Living Like a Boy‎‎You’re in beef with 4 exes.‎‎You text your “sneaky link” after tweeting about “wife material.”‎‎You ghost women for fun—but scream when a woman says she wants a high-value man.‎‎You shame hypergamy while chasing curves.‎‎You criticize promiscuity—after running through half your city.‎‎All you're worth is in fake chains and hired cars.‎‎Sit down. Heal. Repent.‎‎Because accountability isn’t gendered.‎‎And if you’re not man enough to look in the mirror?‎‎You have no business pointing fingers.‎‎—‎‎Final Word: Don’t Demand a Finished Woman—If You’re Still an Unstarted Man‎‎You want:‎‎Peace without order.‎‎Respect without responsibility.‎‎Loyalty without leadership.‎‎A wife who’s trained, tamed, and tailored…‎‎But what are you?‎‎You don’t earn.‎Don’t learn.‎Don’t invest.‎Don’t grow.‎But expect her to submit?‎‎No, boy.‎‎She’s not the one who needs to be ready.‎You are.‎‎So before you call her “mid,” “masculine,” or “modern”...‎‎Ask yourself:‎‎Would a wise woman even follow the man you are right now?‎‎If the answer is no…‎‎You’re not ready for a wife.‎‎You’re only chasing shadows.

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