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In Relationships • 2 min read • May 25, 2025 20:59p.m.
You Weren’t Too Much—You Were Just Too Unseen
<p style="text-align: justify;"><strong>Sometimes, the way we struggle to love—or feel loved—has nothing to do with the people we’re with now… and everything to do with the wounds we carried from childhood.</strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">If you grew up being told to “stop crying,”</p><p style="text-align: justify;">If your needs were ignored or punished,</p><p style="text-align: justify;">If affection was conditional—earned, not freely given—</p><p style="text-align: justify;">You might find yourself now craving closeness but running from it at the same time.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">That’s not you being difficult.</p><p style="text-align: justify;">That’s your nervous system trying to protect you from a love it was never taught to trust.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">Here’s the problem:</p><p style="text-align: justify;">Trauma doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it whispers:</p><p style="text-align: justify;">“Don’t get too close—they’ll leave.”</p><p style="text-align: justify;">“Don’t be vulnerable—they’ll hurt you.”</p><p style="text-align: justify;">“Don’t need too much—you’ll be abandoned.”</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">So even in healthy relationships, you self-sabotage. You overthink, shut down, or become hyper-independent. Not because you don’t want love—but because love never felt safe before.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">The healing starts here:</p><p style="text-align: justify;">First, recognize your triggers without shame. You’re not broken—you’re wounded. And wounds can heal when they’re not hidden.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">Talk to your inner child. Let them know it’s safe now. You’re not that powerless kid anymore—you get to set boundaries, choose partners, and walk away when you’re not seen.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">And if you’re with someone kind, someone who stays? Let them in. Let them show you that love can be soft, steady, and safe.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">Here’s your power tonight:</p><p style="text-align: justify;">You didn’t choose your childhood.</p><p style="text-align: justify;">But you do get to choose how your story continues.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;">You are worthy of love that feels like exhale.</p><p style="text-align: justify;">Love that holds, listens, and never punishes your sensitivity.</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p>
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