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In Relationships • 2 min read • May 24, 2025 17:21p.m.
You’re Not Hard to Love—You’re Just Afraid to Be Loved Right
<p>Some people don’t run from love because they don’t want it.</p><p>They run because they’ve never experienced it in its healthy form.</p><p>Love that’s gentle, consistent, patient? It feels unfamiliar—maybe even fake. And that’s a tragedy no one talks about enough.</p><p><br></p><p>When you’ve spent years in situations where you had to earn affection, fight to be seen, or beg just to be heard… love that comes freely can feel suspicious.</p><p>You start wondering: What’s the catch? Why are they so kind? When is this going to turn?</p><p><br></p><p>Here’s the truth:</p><p>You’re not broken—you’re just bruised.</p><p>And bruises teach us to flinch, even when no one’s raising a hand.</p><p><br></p><p>That’s the problem: we become hyper-independent, guarded, emotionally distant—not because we don’t want closeness, but because we fear losing ourselves in it again. Healthy love becomes scary, because now we associate softness with danger.</p><p><br></p><p>But here’s the solution:</p><p>Start recognizing when your triggers are lying to you. Not every silence means rejection. Not every “I’m busy” means disinterest. Not every slow reply is a sign of fading love.</p><p><br></p><p>Let people show up for you without pushing them away just to see if they’ll stay. Let someone be good to you without questioning their motive until they’re exhausted. Let love flow without always preparing for its absence.</p><p><br></p><p>You don’t need to be perfect to be loved well. You just need to be open enough to receive it when it’s real—and healed enough not to destroy it before it can take root.</p><p><br></p><p>So here's your challenge:</p><p>Don’t sabotage the kind of love you once prayed for—just because you’re still bleeding from the kind you had to survive.</p><p><br></p>
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