March Essay Competition

March 9 — March 22, 2026,

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The average man, regardless of creed, family background, religion, personal convictions, or social, economic, or marital status, will always feel threatened or intimidated by a successful, strong, independent woman.

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Intimated by Default: Exposing the Universal Fragility of the Male Ego

By Simon Ojelabi

March 12, 2026 · 983 words · 5 min read

<p>To claim that all men are invariably threatened by a successful, strong, and independent woman would be a great disservice to the good men in our society. There are men who recognize that success is not bound by gender; men who believe that high achievers, regardless of their chromosomes, should be propped up rather than belittled to massage a fragile ego. To agree entirely with the absolute nature of the prompt’s statement is to ignore the men who actively champion female empowerment.</p><p>However, dismissing the absolute nature of the prompt does not erase a glaring, systemic reality: an unhealthy proportion of men, regardless of their exposure, education, religion, or background, are deeply, deeply insecure when a woman achieves significant success and independence. This insecurity plagues our society, shaping our institutions, our homes, and our culture.</p><p>The irony of this intimidation is almost laughable. Many of the men who bristle at the sight of an empowered woman achieved their current standing only because their mothers fought tooth and nail to secure a life above average for them. A mother cannot make those necessary, profound sacrifices without possessing a level of success, independence, and the strength to make tough decisions. Yet, society suffers from a massive cognitive dissonance: men revere strength and independence in their mothers, but are terrified by it in their peers, colleagues, and partners. When the strong woman transitions from a sacrificial caregiver to a self-sufficient equal, reverence morphs into resentment.<strong><br></strong></p><h2><strong>Institutional Misogyny</strong></h2><p>This resentment is not merely a domestic issue; it is baked into the very fabric of our institutions. Consider the political landscape of Nigeria. For over 65 years of independence, under both civilian and military rule, the nation has frequently been afflicted by incompetent male leadership. Yet, whenever the suggestion of a female leader arises, a vocal contingency of men is quick to oppose it. This opposition is rarely rooted in a logical critique of her ability, her track record, or her manifesto; it is almost entirely based on her gender. The mere thought of a woman holding the highest authority threatens the patriarchal default they have relied upon.</p><p>This institutional gatekeeping is perhaps most vividly illustrated by the Nigerian military. Up until 2011, women were entirely restricted from the Regular Combatant Commission. This commission is the pathway that allows officers to lead infantry units and eventually become combatant generals. Instead, women were relegated to the Direct Short Service, essentially treating them as support staff. The reasons given by male leadership were laughable: they argued that women lacked the physical and emotional traits necessary for the rigorous route of national service.</p><p>This facade of female "weakness" was shattered when President Goodluck Jonathan insisted that women be allowed into the 63rd Regular Course of the Nigerian Defence Academy (NDA). When women finally got the chance to train as combatants, they didn't just survive; they shone. Upon graduation, female cadets won several prestigious academy awards, spectacularly outperforming many of their male counterparts.</p><h2>The Illusion of Background and Education</h2><p>The prompt accurately notes that this intimidation persists "regardless of family background, personal convictions, or social, economic status." One might assume that higher education or exposure to global, progressive environments would cure a man of this insecurity. Yet, the data and lived experiences suggest otherwise.</p><p>In corporate spaces worldwide, highly educated men often display threatening behavior when female colleagues climb the executive ladder. When a woman is assertive in a boardroom, she is often labeled "bossy" or "difficult," whereas a man displaying the exact same traits is praised as a "decisive leader." This double standard is a defensive mechanism. Furthermore, socioeconomic studies consistently show that in marriages where the woman begins to out-earn the man, marital dissatisfaction and divorce rates spike.<br></p><h2>Historical Precedents: The Threat to Traditional Authority</h2><p>To understand the depth of this intimidation, one must look beyond the modern corporate boardroom and examine history, which is replete with examples of male authority figures actively attempting to dismantle female power. The intimidation is not a new phenomenon born of modern feminism; it is an age-old reaction to the disruption of the patriarchal status quo.</p><p>In the Nigerian context, the story of Chief Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti and the Egba Women’s Revolt of the late 1940s serves as a perfect historical case study. Ransome-Kuti was the epitome of a successful, strong, and independent woman. Educated, articulate, and fiercely organized, she mobilized approximately 10,000 women to protest against unfair taxation and the exploitative powers of the colonial-backed traditional ruler, the Alake of Egbaland.</p><p>What is crucial to note here is the reaction of the male establishment. The Alake was a paramount monarch, a man of immense traditional, social, and economic status. Yet, he and his council of chiefs were profoundly threatened by Ransome-Kuti’s influence. Their reaction was not to engage her as an equal political adversary but to resort to hostility, attempting to dismiss the women as unruly and insubordinate. The traditional patriarchal system could not process the reality of women demanding accountability and demonstrating superior organizational prowess. The men’s intimidation was so profound, and the women's success so undeniable, that it ultimately forced the temporary abdication of the Alake.</p><h2>Conclusion: Redefining Strength and Dismantling the Ego</h2><p>In synthesizing the historical, institutional, and psychological evidence, it becomes abundantly clear that the intimidation felt by the "average man" is a widespread, systemic affliction. It is a fear that has been carefully cultivated by centuries of patriarchal conditioning. The quote in the prompt accurately captures a tragic reality. For too many men, across all strata of society, a woman's strength is inherently viewed as a subtraction from their own.</p><p>Recognizing this painful reality is the first step toward dismantling it. We must move past the defensive, fragile definition of masculinity that requires female subservience to survive. The average man must be re-educated to understand that power and success are not finite resources. A successful, strong, independent woman does not exist to usurp a man’s place in the world; she exists to claim her own.</p><p><br></p><p><br></p>