When people are in a season of grief or loss,

It is best to sit with them in that grief.

Sit with them as they pour out their eyes,

sit with them as they narrate in-between sobs how much the loss broke them,

sit with them as they lament over and over again.

Never tell them not to cry or stay strong

because that statement alone breaks a lot in them same way the loss did.

They don't need "It's okay, don't cry, be strong".

They don't need all of those motivation that we feel would make them strong

because it's not even making them any better.

It's only adding more pain to the one on ground.

It is easier to tell people going through seasons of loss to be strong

but what we don't know is that grief runs so deep and we can never measure how deep it is

because how can you tell them to be strong when reality hits?

when they know they'll never see their loved ones again,

when there'll no longer be inside jokes, laughter, togetherness and all of the beautiful things they've always done together with them.

How can we still tell them to be strong and not to cry?

So, please, never tell a person going through the pain of loss to stay strong and not cry

because we might think we're sympathizing with them

but we don't know we're breaking them to pieces even more.

© Goke's pen

~TheHealingPoet🤍