I feel like we've been made to believe that if someone is jealous, it automatically means they love you.

But honestly? Not every jealousy is love.

There's a difference between someone saying, “I don't like how close you are to that person” and someone telling you who you can talk to, what you can wear, where you can go, and who you're allowed to be friends with.

That's not love. That's control.

Yes, your partner can get jealous sometimes. We're human. But jealousy shouldn't become an excuse to control someone or make them feel guilty for simply existing around other people.

You shouldn't have to stop being yourself just to make someone feel secure.

And please, don't confuse “he's jealous because he loves me” with “he's controlling me because he doesn't trust me.”

Love should come with trust too.

Because if the only way someone can feel secure in a relationship is by controlling everything you do, then there's a bigger problem hiding underneath that jealousy.

Jealousy can be normal. Control isn't.

And no, I'm not saying your partner should never get jealous. I'm saying don't romanticize behaviour that slowly takes away your freedom just because it comes wrapped in the word love.