FEAR MEN 💔 - by Benita 💕

Imagine a guy chasing a particular lady for a very long time, days, weeks, months, or even years. He keeps trying to get her attention, making his intentions known, and doing everything he can to convince her to give him a chance. Eventually, after all that persistence, the lady finally agrees to date him.Then suddenly, everything changes.The same man who spent months or years chasing her starts acting as though she is now disturbing him. He becomes nonchalant, distant, and suddenly too busy for her. His communication becomes poor, his attitude changes, and he starts giving her treatment that is completely different from what she experienced while he was trying to win her over.And honestly, I have to ask: if you were not genuinely interested in this girl, why did you chase her for so long?Why spend so much time convincing someone to give you a chance, only to make her suffer emotionally after she finally does? Why approach someone, make her believe you genuinely want her, and then turn around and put her through emotional frustration?You asked her out, and she accepted. So why does she suddenly have to start feeling like she is the one forcing the relationship to work?Why should she be the one constantly reaching out, trying to communicate, asking for your attention, and wondering why you have suddenly become so distant?Being busy is understandable. Everyone has responsibilities and a life outside their relationship. But there is a difference between being genuinely busy and being nonchalant. There is a difference between having a tight schedule and making someone feel completely alone in a relationship that is supposed to involve two people.You cannot spend months or years chasing a woman, convincing her that you want her, only to finally get her and then make her question whether accepting you was a mistake.You cannot ask someone to come into your life and then make her feel lonely after she gets there.And this is where I ask: Is it really fair?Is it fair to make someone emotionally frustrated simply because you have finally gotten the relationship you spent so much time trying to get?Is it fair to make a woman feel uncomfortable for accepting your love?Is it fair to leave her alone in a relationship that is supposed to be between the two of you?Sometimes, people spend so much energy chasing someone that they forget that getting the person is not the end of the journey. The real responsibility begins after they say yes.If you genuinely want someone, then let your actions after getting them show that you meant what you said while pursuing them.Because love should not feel like one person is constantly chasing while the other person is constantly withdrawing.Because if you knew you were not ready to communicate, give attention, make time, and genuinely participate in a relationship, why did you chase her in the first place?Why make someone feel loved enough to accept you, only to make her feel lonely after she does?Is it really fair?

Other insights from Benita 💕

Contributor Points

Points-to-Coupons

Referral Earning