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Coward Pen
Student @ University of Ibadan
Student @ University of Ibadan
My money not ours?
<p>A MAN’S MONEY IS NOT AUTOMATICALLY HIS WOMAN’S MONEY JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE DATING. </p><p>Let's avoid the word beggars for now, let's be sincere with eachother.</p><p>To find a girl that has eaten, it's a miracle actually.</p><p>But let's dive in as i bring in my own perspective 🌚🌚🌚.</p><p><br/></p><p>Oya,let’s have an uncomfortable conversation.</p><p><br/></p><p>Dating a man does not automatically make you a joint owner of everything he earns.</p><p><br/></p><p>If he pays your bills, buys you gifts, takes you out and supports you, that should be appreciated as what he chooses to give, not treated as a salary you are entitled to.</p><p><br/></p><p>A man can love a woman deeply and still have financial boundaries.</p><p><br/></p><p>He can say:</p><p><br/></p><p>“I can’t afford that.”</p><p>“That’s not in my budget.”</p><p>“I’m not paying for that.”</p><p><br/></p><p>And none of those statements automatically make him stingy.</p><p>The word stingy self seems somehow cause he works for the money 🥱</p><p><br/></p><p>The problem starts when generosity becomes an obligation.</p><p><br/></p><p>Some men start relationships by giving freely because they want to impress the woman they love. After a while, the woman becomes accustomed to the lifestyle.</p><p><br/></p><p>Then the moment the man reduces his spending, she starts asking:</p><p><br/></p><p>“What happened to you?”</p><p>“You have changed.”</p><p>“Are you seeing another woman?”</p><p><br/></p><p>But maybe he simply realized that being generous doesn’t mean being financially irresponsible.</p><p><br/></p><p>And women should also have their own financial independence.</p><p><br/></p><p>A healthy relationship should not be:</p><p><br/></p><p>“Your money is our money, but my money is my money.” 👀</p><p><br/></p><p>Both partners should be able to contribute according to their circumstances, communicate about money and respect each other’s boundaries.</p><p><br/></p><p>A man’s wallet should never be the measure of his love.</p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p>And ladies, before you drag me 😂: I'm single,so don't think of using my partner as example 😂😂</p><p><br/></p><p>If a man stopped paying for everything tomorrow, would you still consider him a good partner? 👇🏽🔥</p>
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