Before her boyfriend could finish his sentence, Eniola's palm landed heavily on his cheek.

'Are you mad?' she shouted. “I am having menstrual cramps and you're here telling me nonsense”

Yes, that's what I witnessed today.

I wanted to say something, but…..

“Never interfere in the business of the two adults who had seen each other naked,” I remember what my father once told me.

I didn't really know the Genesis of the issue.

Neither did I know what Eniola’s boyfriend had said to provoke such a reaction in public.

But “Menstrual cramps” was the excuse she used to justify her action.

And this got me thinking about what women go through every month.

The truth is — they are trying.

What many of them are passing through every month ain't no joke.

Imagine bleeding every month due to some biological processes you have little or no control over.

And It would have been better, if it was only bleeding.

But what accompanies it include severe abdominal pain, dizziness, loss of appetite, lack of energy, mood swing e.t.c

Some may even be hospitalized.

For some women,the pain is so intense that to carry out their daily activities almost becomes impossible.

I have women around me who are comfortable enough to share their experiences with me without feeling ashamed.

My sister, besties and Àgbéké.

Honestly, they are trying and I doff my cap for them.

But, does experiencing menstrual cramps give anyone a right to treat other people like trash.

Or are menstrual cramps now a free passage or avenue to treat another person anyhow.

We understand the fact that the pain sometimes can be unbearable and some people can be so annoying sometimes.

Some can be insensitive and may deliberately say things to provoke you

But doesn't that mean you should take the frustration out on them? 

I know some may disagree with this because it's coming from Àdùní.

Some may decide to blackmail me by calling me misogynist.

But that won't stop me from telling the truth.

Because, If I say the truth, I'll die

If I don't tell the truth, I'll also die.

Why not Kuku tell the truth and die?

And the truth is some of our ladies are using the menstrual cramps as an excuse and mask to cover the bad behaviour that's deeply engraved in them already.

Menstruation may explain why someone is easily irritable, but it doesn't automatically excuse every action.

It's what it's.

I also believe that there's a difference between being irritable because you're in pain and being deliberately disrespectful to someone.

I understand that sometimes you may not be able to control how you feel, however you should be mindful of how you treat others during this period.

And yes, menstruation deserves understanding, empathy, patience, compassion, but it shouldn't become an excuse for every unpleasant behavior.

Women deserve understanding from others, whether male or female and others also deserve respect.

Pain is real. So is the accountability.

Perhaps, that's what we all need to remember, adhere and live by

@Àdùní