We teach our boys to be Jagunjagun before we ever teach them how to be human.

From the moment a man learns to navigate this world, the rulebook is simple: carry the weight, keep your head up, and never let them see you stumble.

You are the protector.

You are the shield.

You are the one who is supposed to absorb the shockwaves of life, swallow the pain quietly, and keep your steeze intact, no matter what.

But what happens when the shield shatters? What happens when the warrior is the one who gets violated?

In our society, male trauma is treated like a myth, and male sexual assault is routinely turned into a punchline.

When a man is abused, the world doesn't rush to offer comfort; it laughs. It tells him he's "lucky."

It frames a crime as a conquest, reducing profound trauma to a crude joke. We have built a culture that refuses to accept that a man can be a victim, convincing him that his violation wasn't a crime but something he should have enjoyed.

Think about the psychological torture of that. You're carrying a wound that's tearing your soul apart, but every time you look around for help, society gasps in disbelief or chuckles in mock envy.

You're forced to perform strength while you're bleeding to death inside.

When you invalidate a man's pain, you lock him in a room with no doors.

When a man realises that speaking up will only invite ridicule, that dropping his guard will strip him of his dignity, and that even his worst nightmares will be laughed off, he stops trying to speak.

He locks the trauma deep inside, where it rots into shame, isolation, and unyielding darkness.

And then we stand around, shocked, when another man silently slips away. We ask why he didn't say anything. We wonder why he didn't reach out.

The truth is, he didn't reach out because we built a world where dying in silence feels safer than being laughed at while asking to be saved.

Suicide among men isn't just a mental health crisis; it's also a reflection of a society that demands men be invincible while stripping them of the right to hurt.

You can't tell him, "Stop crying, you're a man."

Does being a man ease the blow or make it all go away?

Men are humans too, and throwing around such profanities as "Men don't cry" deserves backlash, not applause.

It is time to burn down the idea that pain makes a man less of a man.

The barbaric mindset that crying makes you weak and less of a man needs to go.

Holding back your tears won't make you feel better. If you want to cry, by all means, do.

Trauma is not a joke. Violation is not a compliment, and surviving abuse does not take away your manhood.

It doesn't make you weaker or lesser.

Until we let our men be human, we will keep losing our warriors to the quiet.

Men are humans too.

Get your facts straight.