CHEATING IS ACTUALLY A VERY FUNNY THING.

Because the way men cheat and the way women cheat… sometimes, I don’t even know who is more complicated. You can have a man cheating on his woman and the first thing people will say is, “Don’t worry, he doesn’t have feelings for her. It’s just cheating.” And somehow, that explanation is supposed to make everything better. But then you hear another person say, “No, men can actually develop feelings too. They just know how to separate the two.” Then someone else will say, “Separate what? If you are sleeping with somebody repeatedly, spending money on her, checking up on her, taking her out… at some point, what exactly are you separating?” And that’s where the conversation gets interesting. Because when it comes to women, people usually believe it’s different. They’ll say a woman doesn’t just cheat because she saw a fine man. If she cheats, there must be something behind it. Maybe she likes him. Maybe she feels understood by him. Maybe she’s emotionally attached. Maybe she has already checked out of her relationship and the other person is just where her feelings have landed. But then again… is that really true? Because there are women who will tell you, “Please, I don’t have feelings for this man. I just like what he can do for me.” And suddenly, the whole “women only cheat when they have feelings” theory has scattered. Then you look at men again. Some people say men can cheat with anybody. Beautiful, ugly, rich, poor… as long as the opportunity presents itself. But is that really how it works? Because there are also men who cheat with one particular woman for months or even years. At that point, you can’t keep calling it “just opportunity.” You know this woman. You miss her. You call her. You fight with her. You make plans with her. So what exactly is that? And then there’s the money part. Some people say women cheat for money. Others say men also cheat for money, connections, status, attention… basically, whoever makes their life easier. Then someone will say, “No, men cheat because they want sex.” Another person will say, “Women cheat because they want emotional connection.” And honestly, the more you listen, the more confusing it becomes. Because maybe cheating doesn’t have one formula. Maybe some men cheat because they want sex. Some because they are emotionally attached. Some because they are bored. Some because they have money and too many options. And some simply because they can. Same thing with women. Some cheat because they have feelings. Some because they feel neglected. Some because of money. Some because they want revenge. And some? They just wanted to cheat. So now we’re back where we started. Maybe the real difference isn’t whether it’s a man or a woman. Maybe it’s just the person. Because two people can cheat on their partners for completely different reasons… and still call it the same thing. Cheating.

Other insights from Mariam Mutiu

Referral Earning

Points-to-Coupons