DEAR GIRL CHILD, YOU ARE ENOUGH!

I want to talk to the girl who grew up without a brother. Maybe you are the only child. Maybe it is just you and your sister. Maybe you grew up in a home where everyone kept hoping for a boy. And honestly, I know it can hurt. Growing up in a Nigerian home without a brother can feel different. People ask questions. “Only girls?” “No boy?” “Who will carry the family name?” Sometimes they say it as a joke, but you still feel it. Sometimes you watch other girls with their brothers and you wonder what it would have been like to have one. Someone to disturb you. Someone to fight with. Someone to protect you. Someone you can call my brother. And sometimes, you don't even want a brother because you think your family is not complete. You just want to experience that kind of bond. That kind of love. That feeling of having someone who is yours. But there is another pain that people don't talk about. The way society can make a girl feel less important simply because she is a girl. Especially in some Nigerian homes. Sometimes, people treat having a son like it is the greatest achievement. And having daughters becomes something they still need to explain. I have seen this in my own family. I have seen the way people look at families that have only girls. I have heard the questions. I have seen how people can make you feel like there should have been a boy. And sometimes, even as a girl, you begin to ask yourself, “Am I really enough?” But my mother never allowed me to think that way. She always reminded me that I am worth more than ten sons. And those words stayed with me. Because every girl needs someone to remind her that she is enough. You don't have to be a boy to make your parents proud. You don't have to have a brother for your family to be complete. You don't have to carry a man's name to be important. You are important because you are you. Girl, I know there are days you feel that emptiness. I know there are days you wish you had someone you could call your brother. And it is okay to feel that way. You can miss someone you never even had. But please don't let that missing space make you forget who you are. You are somebody's daughter. You are somebody's joy. You are somebody's answered prayer. You are someone's little girl who will one day become a strong woman. And even if people don't see your worth, please see it for yourself. When they say, “Na only girls?” Tell yourself, “Yes. And we are enough.” When they ask, “No son?” Smile. Because they don't know what your parents have in you. They don't know what you will become. They don't know the things you will achieve. They don't know how far you will go. And one day, you will look back and understand that you were never missing anything. You were simply growing up in a different kind of family. So to that girl reading this... I want you to know that I see you. I see the little girl who sometimes wished for a brother. I see the girl who wondered if her father wanted a son. I see the girl who sometimes felt like being a daughter was not enough. And I want you to hear this clearly: You are enough. You are more than enough. You are loved. You are seen. You are important. And you are whoever you believe you can become. Never let anyone make you feel like your family needed a son before it could be proud of you. Your mother gave birth to a daughter. But she gave the world a whole human being. A whole woman. A whole blessing. So baby girl, lift your head. Take your space. Become everything you want to become. Make your parents proud. And when the world asks, “But who will be their son?” Let your life answer for you: “They didn't need a son.They had me.” 🥺❤️

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