Raise your hand if you’ve ever told someone about something before it happened, and it didn’t come through.

Same.

And you kept wondering,” Which of my father’s people are doing me?”

Sometimes it can’t be that, but I am learning that some things are meant to stay with you for a season.

Something happened in September; I had a speaker I wanted to have at an event for my NGO, and I posted it on my close friends’ story, even though I got a nudge not to.

It fell through completely.

Now, I don’t know what happened, but I know I should have listened to that nudge. I know what you’re thinking. Village people.

But let’s even leave the village people for now, and focus on God. Sometimes, God starts things, and only he can announce what he is planning. If you tell something too early, it falls through. Some of you have words God has given you about your future, but you know that if you say them now, they will fall through.

We live in a culture that constantly pressures us to share everything in real-time: every vision, every idea, every step of the process before it’s even fully formed. Not every dream is meant for the public while it’s still growing.

Think about a seed planted in the ground. You don’t dig it up every morning to show everybody how it’s growing. Like, ‘See guys, look at how beautiful it is…”

If you do, you disrupt its root system and kill its potential. Leave it covered, water it in secret, and let it root deeply.

Some dreams also need protection from unsolicited opinions, subtle doubts, or unnecessary noise before they are strong enough to withstand external forces, and I’m learning those forces can come from your friends and family.

Look at my favourite character in the bible, Joseph. He told his family about his dreams, and they sold him. Yes, his family was jealous, but Joseph should have had that discernment to keep some things to himself.

It really be the ones you know.

But let your results introduce your hard work. Before I share a brand-new idea with someone, I ask myself this. Is it necessary right now? (Or am I just seeking immediate validation?) Is it wise to speak this out loud? (Or should I let my quiet work speak first?)

That has guided me, especially as a girl with coconut head.

But hold up.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell your friends what you are building or what you’re going through, but be sensitive about who you tell. I saw a video of a girl who hadn’t told her friends she got married; to me, it was ridiculous, because how will my friends be with me while I’m getting married to Lorenzo? Besides, am I the one who’s going to plan my bridal shower? Chinke. No oh.

But 10% of me also understands a possible reason why she would have done that; maybe it was an instruction, maybe her friends had a pattern of being unsupportive, or maybe she just wanted to keep to herself.

Who knows?

But I’m also learning that not everyone who smiles with you wants to rejoice with you.

So, beautiful one, build in silence when you need to. Protect your peace, guard your vision, and speak when only God asks you to.

I pray that anyone who wants to stop what God is planning in your life will fail. Not only will they fail, but they will be disgraced publicly for their evil schemes against you. If God be for you, Kò sí ẹnikẹ́ni….

Oh, sorry, international audience.

If God be for you, nobody can oppose you.

In fact, God may let them try so he can flex his eternal muscles and power; So, rest assured in God’s plan, but also be discerning and wise.

With love,

The Wise One, Twi-Twi