There are friends, and then there are Ore Agbako.  And honestly, the difference is not always obvious.

Because how do you explain someone who calls you their friend but secretly sees you as competition? 

Someone who knows your struggles but somehow struggles to celebrate your wins?

 Someone who has a front-row seat to your life but is secretly hoping you don't do too well?

Ore Agbako is that friend who claps for you with one hand and calculates your downfall with the other. 

The one who turns every little achievement into a competition, makes subtle remarks about your progress, or somehow finds a way to make you feel small whenever something good happens to you.

And the funny thing? Sometimes, they are not even strangers. They are people you trust. People you gist with. People who know things about you that you wouldn't tell just anybody.

But here's something worth remembering: not every friendship is a safe space, and not everyone who has access to you deserves unlimited access to you.

A genuine friend doesn't have to be doing better than you to be happy for you. 

Your progress shouldn't make them uncomfortable, and your good news shouldn't feel like an announcement of war.

Of course, nobody is perfect. Friends can disagree, misunderstand each other, get jealous occasionally, and have difficult moments.

 But there's a difference between an imperfect friendship and a pattern of resentment, dishonesty, and competition.

So, please, learn to recognise the difference.

 Don't turn every disagreement into betrayal, but don't keep excusing consistent bad behaviour just because you have history with someone.

Celebrate your friends. Correct them when necessary. Be happy when they win, even when you're still waiting for your own breakthrough.

And if the friendship constantly requires you to shrink, doubt yourself, or question whether someone genuinely wants the best for you, perhaps it's time to reconsider the access you've given them.

Run from Ore Agbako. 

And please, may we never be the Ore Agbako in somebody else's life. Because while we're busy identifying them, we should also check ourselves. 🙂

Peace out.

Till my next insight, ciao😗