I was on transit when a guy and a lady started engaging in a conversation. For someone like me, if you're not talking to me directly, I just might not pay attention to what you are saying. I mean, amebo no really concern me joor. But this conversation, my ear was sat like madtt!

It was a "guy getting to know a lady" kind of conversation, you get? 

At a point, the guy asked the lady about her previous relationship and why she left. 

"What he is asking for is bigger than me." That was her response. 

At this point, I got sooo interested. Mind you, they were conversing in a way that everyone in the bus could hear. Chai.

"Is it the S?" The guy asked, and the lady responded in the affirmative. The guy was surprised, asked about her age, and was surprised the more when she said 21. What he said next disgusted me sooooo much, that I've just been thinking ever since. 

He said (I paraphrase), "ah, you're 21, so why can't you give him what he was asking for. What's there? It's not bad na. So you want to tell me that you're still a virgin? (The lady affirmed and he continued), "ah, it's a lie! I don't believe. Why?? Omo, I don't believe joor. Do girls like that still exist? So when do you want to do it? When you get married? Omo me I cannot o"

He went on and on.

SIGH. 

Take me back in the days, when not being a virgin was what surprised people. How did we get here? How did being a virgin before marriage become an abomination? On this topic, my heart have been bleeding for the longest of time! Howwwww? When did "what people will say" become the standard? Didn't Scripture tell us that marriage should be honoured, and the marriage bed kept undefiled?

What particularly broke my heart was what I noticed as their conversation progressed.

The girl's confidence seemed to be dropping. She began giving off this energy of, "Omo, I hope I'm not the weird one." I felt bad I almost cried. 

And this is the very heart of this conversation. 

Irrespective of wether you're a man or a woman, if "no sex before marriage" is a value you hold, please hold it well. I tell you you're not the only one. There are thousands of others! Many! I promise you, you're not missing out on anything, do not be deceived. 

Anything that will make you bargain your value is already too expensive. Drop it!.

And this goes beyond virginity. Resist the pressure to abandon personal convictions just to satisfy social expectations. Not everything that has become common deserves to become your standard. Not everyone who disagrees with your choices understands what those choices mean to you.

You don't have to make your convictions fashionable before they become valid.

I feel a bit relieved talking about it, and I hope it brought hope to someone's heart again. 🥺

Love you much!🫂