In the past this used to be a big thing for ladies especially,

It still is in specific parts of the world mainly blacks 

The society see it as a lady’s crown and worth

A man’s status: a virgin boy is seen as a whore 

Just because people decided it 

A virgin lady is seen as someone sexually pure , someone who didn’t loose herself to the world,to the sexual desires of men, to the nerve between her legs 

A virgin boy is seen as unexpected,hasn’t tasted any of the goodness in the sexual world, maybe a whimp 

We won’t talk about the bias between genders (maybe next time)

We should ta about the way it hurts 

Babe… having sex doesn’t ruin your worth (though it can wait till the right time)

It doesn’t elevate you either 

But it shouldn’t be the judge of what you are 

A broken tissue shouldn’t be the judge of who you are 

“You didn’t wait till marriage” doesn’t reduce you, doesn’t make you behind those who kept theirs

It doesn’t define you 

Yes maybe there’s a sense of security in keeping your legs closed, not having to worry about STDs or STIs , overthinking, depression or even pregnancy 

But it shouldn’t change your identity 

A doctor who married a virgin isn’t different from one who didn’t, besides it isn’t written on your forehead 

You’re worth as much in the society as your peers 

Virginity doesn’t define you, besides it doesn’t necessarily mean purity 

You could be sexually impure even with your legs closed 

Masturbation , pornography ,and other stuff we engage in

So if you didn’t loose it , don’t get pressured, you don’t have to 

And if you’ve lost it, it doesn’t change who you are 

Love yourself 🥰