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Stargirl.
Student and freelancer. @ Adekunle Ajasin University Akungba Akoko
Student and freelancer. @ Adekunle Ajasin University Akungba Akoko
Be my friend. please ..🥺
<p>We need to be more childlike about friendship. Children see someone playing with a toy and simply ask, “Can I play with you?” That is the entire screening process. No CV, no references, no “What are your long-term intentions for this friendship?” By evening, you have exchanged snacks, argued over a toy, forgiven each other and made plans for tomorrow. Adults, meanwhile, can turn friendship into a full procurement exercise. We analyse vibes, response times, social media activity and whether someone used a full stop in their WhatsApp message. </p><p>Maybe growing up should not mean growing out of that sincerity. Children say, “I missed you,” instead of waiting three business days to see if you will say it first. They ask to play instead of calculating who initiated the last five conversations. They get angry, say why, cry a little, and somehow five minutes later they are sharing biscuits again. To be childlike in friendship is not to be childish. It is to remain open enough to say, “I thought of you,” “Come over,” “Are you okay?” or even, “I was upset with you,” without needing a PowerPoint presentation and legal representation.</p><p><br/></p><p>We have become so good at protecting ourselves that sometimes we accidentally protect ourselves from friendship too. Of course, boundaries matter. Not everyone deserves access to us, and some people should remain exactly where they are: outside the gate, preferably far enough not to see the Wi-Fi password. But good friendships also need curiosity, forgiveness, initiation and a willingness to keep showing up. Tell your friend you miss them. Celebrate their small wins. Check in when there is no birthday, achievement or emergency requiring your presence. Stop keeping score like friendship is the Premier League table.</p><p><br/></p><p>friendship is one of those places where adulthood could use a little less sophistication. Sometimes, just walk up to someone and say, “Do you want to play?” Send the message. Make the call. Invite them. Say sorry. Laugh again. Life is already complicated enough. We do not need to turn “I like you, let’s be friends” into a five-year strategic partnership.</p>
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