Before 'I DO' 💎💍 - by Soulscribe

"You must marry her like that" "My elders, Mama,papa ...... she is dead . I haven't even mourned her yet and you guys are saying I marry her ?" "We told you then when she had your first child , mistakenly we know it was and of which you were told is against our family's tradition. We asked still that you come pay her bride price . Out of both of you stupidity, you didn't , did you ?" " Mama , we were planning too not until she got pregnant again thus leading to her death. How am I to marry someone who is already dead ,Mama ?Pls say something" " You will have to sort out the marriage and burial rites , she is your wife . The marriage list especially will be given to you in three days time , by then you should have contacted your people" " Marriage and burial rites, gbese re ooo!!! (this is debt) " ************ another scene *********** "I did not kill him. Why and how will you people think I did ?This is wickedness" " That is none of our business . All we have to say is , according to tradition and the way married women in our family mourn their husbands, your hair will be shaved, you will be locked with his body for 14 days , no communication and connection with anybody" " What sort of a thing is this ? I didn't know about any of these......." "You should have asked. I so much pity you children of nowadays wetin una call una sef ,ehmm gen kini ,gen A or gen F or gen Y . Na only love una put for head without even knowing the definition. During our time...... " " Leave your time alone please. I am in agony and you are telling me all of these. Why didn't you tell me before we got married ?" " Would you have listened ?" silence ********* ******** ******* Hey guys . How are you all doing ? I painted this scenes and honestly I don't know what it feels or what I feel about 'em Both scenes are for the male and female gender You know..... this era of 'Gen Z+lity' and 'Civilized era', has so much blinded not only our eyes but our reasonings too "Those are long gone ." "Who still continue in those ?" . "Who still practice these traditions ?" Ahhhhhh ! Be well informed to know that crazy families like these/ those exist. Their traditions and rites are never skipped One mistake many people make is failing to ask the right <a class="tc-blue" href="https://questions.We" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">questions.We </a> are just so ignorant to these . The questions we think are important are "Babes, do you love me ?" Or proposing "Will you be my wife ?" asking whether someone loves you isn't the <a class="tc-blue" href="https://problem.Love" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">problem.Love </a> matters. But so do compatibility, real and honest communication, family expectations, personal boundaries(yes personal boundaries I say) and the willingness to negotiate differences. Before "be my wife and yes I will" how deep do you know each other . Not he , not she but her family, his religion, special things done in their family (ies) etc Before you marry the person you love, learn about the life you're agreeing to share with them before and after the vow DEATH DO US PART Another thing abeg ........ Getting pregnant out of wedlock or impregnating someone's pikin out of wedlock. We know mistake happens . If any of these should happen, try do the little thing you can on the person head (no be like that dem dey talk am ?) so as to avoid future <a class="tc-blue" href="https://doom.The" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">doom.The </a> spirituality of this world is already spiritually tiring already,don't add more to your spiritualize problems. I am a Christian.I am a Muslim. Sowi oooo 🤣 you didn't think of that before doing lovey-dovey and even giving out icing diamond proposal ring . Just be looking...........buhhh Love is beautiful. Marriage can be beautiful, too. But beyond the butterflies, the affection, and the promises, there are real-life expectations that deserve honest conversations. So, to my fellow singles and those planning to marry, whether soon or later, please, let's learn to look beyond “I love you.” Because sometimes, the questions you fail to ask before marriage become the very questions you desperately wish you'd asked afterward. I know all of these might sound somehow. Weird Stupid This kind of "excuse me" expression In all sincerity, it is better SAFE than SORRY This is my shortie advice to we singles Other thoughts can be shared too pls especially from married person(s) because me too need advice before my own YES I DO ehn naw 🙃

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