FENCES 🌿 - by Tobi Peace

A fence is a structure built to mark a boundary, create separation, provide protection, or prevent access. But sometimes, fences are not made of wood, iron, or concrete.Sometimes, we build fences around ourselves. We build fences from past experiences, disappointments, betrayal, fear, insecurity, and the desire to protect ourselves from being hurt again. We put up walls and boundaries so high that even those who genuinely want to love us, help us, or simply be there for us can no longer reach us. We tell ourselves, “I am protecting my peace.”And sometimes, we truly are.But there are times when what we call protection has become isolation. Not every person who knocks at your fence wants to hurt you. Not everyone deserves to be kept outside because of what someone else did to you.Learn to break some fences.Allow people in. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow yourself to receive love, friendship, correction, support, and genuine connection. You don't have to tear down every fence, but you should learn to recognize when a fence is no longer protecting you but preventing you from experiencing meaningful relationships. There's also another fence we do build, that of mistake; because you made a mistake then you give up on something and become afraid of it.You need to see that the fact that you failed is prove that you can achieve it you just have to keep trying..Heal yourself of the mistakes you've made let the go! And beyond the personal fences we build, there are fences we build between ourselves and others.Sometimes, these fences are built from the colour of our skin, our tribe, our ethnicity, nationality, social class, background, or culture. We begin to see people through labels instead of seeing them as human beings.Racism is one of those fences.It creates an imaginary boundary that says, “You are different from me, so you are less than me,” or “You belong there, while I belong here.”We create divisions among ourselves, forgetting that beneath our different languages, cultures, appearances, and backgrounds, we are still human beings.Some fences protect.Some fences define boundaries.But some fences divide what was never meant to be divided.So perhaps we need to ask ourselves:What fences have I built?Which ones are protecting something valuable, and which ones are keeping out the very people I need?Which fences are healthy boundaries, and which ones are built from fear?And which fences have we built between ourselves and others simply because they look different from us?We need wisdom to know which fences to maintain, which ones to lower, and which ones to completely tear down.Because life was never meant to be lived entirely behind fences.Sometimes, the person on the other side of the fence is not your enemy. They may simply be someone you have never taken the time to understand.Break the fences that divide us.Open the gates that can be opened.And let love, understanding, and humanity have room to enter.

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