The Court Bigger Than the Supreme Court

I sat up on my bed, and my head was still banging from the programme I attended the day before. I searched around with sleepy eyes on my bed, only to remember that I had left my phone charging on my reading table the night before. I stood up and went close to the table, still half asleep. I got the nerves in my fingers working and somehow located my phone. I double tapped the screen and boom! Light came on, piercing straight through my eyes. I literally wanted to scream, but kept it cool. I dimmed the light and I could swear I screamed in my head. Jesussss! 9:15 alreadyyyy! I woke up past 9 on a Sunday morning. I wasn't worried about church because I attend second service and it starts by 11:00 a.m... so I really wasn't worried. But I think my brain gave the shout because I had slept for that long. I got to my daily chores.Exactly at 10:00 a.m. I returned to my room, turned on my data and had already concluded that, in order to survive this headache, I must stay away from any shenanigans today. I turned on my phone to feed my spirit with the Word of God since I wasn't going to church. Then the notifications started popping up. "Allegedly this. Allegedly that." I began to wonder, what on earth was going on? I went to YouTube, searched for a sermon and fed my spirit with Pastor Philip Olubakin's words. Then I went on WhatsApp. Not like I was expecting any message from anyone. I just wanted to play around there. Boom! Statuses were screaminggggg... "Allegedly too." At this point, I could swear I wasn't having it again. Then boom! The next post came. "Men will stain your white..." Gbam! What's going on? I was curious because there is a way I have wired my algorithm. Certain things simply don't come close. Till date, "You will be my heaven baby" has never shown up on my FYP. Neither did the viral slang, "Na me be pepper, na be salt" from the movie Monica, ever find its way to my FYP. My friends at school actually think I'm weird because when they talk about certain viral things, I genuinely have no idea what they're talking about.I continued scrolling. And boom! Audrey's fiancé. Mr Presh. Gbam! Until that Sunday, I had no idea he was Mr Presh. I had only seen the proposal video, and I could swear I was genuinely happy for her because, if any of you know me, you would know that I am keen on fashion and art. I love her fashion sense. I love how she makes her dresses. So yes, I am a fan. I just didn't know what to think. So, naturally, I did what any curious human being with an active data plan would do. I searched. One post led to another. One comment led to another. Screenshots. Videos. Threads. People's opinions flying everywhere. And then I saw it. The allegations. Apparently, there were claims that Mr Presh had been unfaithful, and that there was another woman. Then came another allegation that he had two children. At this point, my headache had officially found a new competitor. I sat there staring at my phone like, "Wait. What?" This was the same proposal I had watched. The same excitement. The same comments. The same beautiful pictures I had admired. And now the internet was collectively saying, "Allegedly." Allegedly. That word has become something of a shield on social media. People throw it around while dropping information that can completely change how you see another human being. And before I go further, let me make something clear. I wasn't there. I don't know these people personally. I don't know what happened behind closed doors. I don't know which parts of what is circulating are true, exaggerated, incomplete or completely false. So I am not here to pronounce a verdict on anybody. What caught my attention was not just the story. What caught my attention was the opinionssssss... Some said he is a cheat, cause allegedly close to 6 women have claimed to have stayed with him even after the proposal and engagement and during the wedding preparation. Some said he was a cheat, that he doesn't deserve her. Some said she could change him, that they are jealous of the fact that he settled for her after playing the rest of the girls. Some said she is too marriage oriented and naive, so he was playing her and will never change. Some said, "Leave him." Some said, "Don't blame her." Some said, "Maybe she knows something we don't." Some said, "Let her make her own decision." Some said, "I would still marry him." And somewhere in the middle of all these opinions is one actual woman who has to live with whatever decision she makes. My first question is, who made you all the judge!? Amidst all the "some said, some said," I'll be speaking on two contributions. Which is: 1. Some said she could change him, that they are jealous of the fact that he settled for her after playing the rest of the girls. 2. Some said, "Let her make her own decision." How many times do we have to emphasize on the "I can change him"? You can't change anyone! I don't know how true these allegations are, but believe me when I tell you that if they are actually true, you can't change him. Some of you have been in relationships where you gave him your everything to change that guy, but he left eventually. If the person doesn't decide to change, they will keep cheating. Are there certain things people can force you to change about yourself, except you decide to change yourself? The answer is no. Same way, you can't change that person until they feel the need to. So, stop going around telling people to take sh*t, that chronic cheat will always be a cheat. Second one to talk on. "Let her make her own decision!" Who made you the judge over her? We are quick to lay judgment on others. Let her make her own decisions, whether she wants to continue or stay back. Why are we so comfortable making permanent conclusions about temporary glimpses of people's lives? At what point does concern become intrusion? Because there is a difference between saying: "Girl, please be careful. These allegations are serious." And saying: "You are stupid if you marry him." The first leaves room for her humanity. The second assumes you know her life better than she does. And, let me not go for those judging her over the guy's alleged misconduct with proofs. Why do we judge women so harshly for staying with people who hurt them, when most of us have never had to make that decision from inside the relationship? Anyways, if you ever feel maltreated in a relationship, leave. A bad relationship is better than a destroyed marriage. It is well. I close that one chapter. She wanting love, marriage and children is normal, but a woman should still apply logic when choosing a partner. I can't emphasize on this enough. "If a man doesn't know God, he can't love God. And a man that doesn't love God can't love you." The logic is simple but is so painful that my generation doesn't get it!!! Afi make e dey gift you. Anything Audrey chooses to do with Mr Presh, good luck to everybody. Funny thing is those judging her are in worse scenarios... Everybody be forming sh*t. Maybe the lesson isn't whether Audrey should stay or leave. Maybe the lesson is that we should be careful how we treat people whose battles we only know from a screen. God save us from the clutch of social media.

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