The Dark Side of Love - by Princess Chronicles

She has this dark, cracked side.Love becomes dangerous when you realize that the person you have been pouring your heart, your attention, your time, your energy, everything into…doesn't actually feel the same way about you or worse they have been pretending to. You thought you were both standing in the same place emotionally, only to realize that you have been standing there alone. At that point, would you still be grateful for love?Or would you want to discard the whole thing? Love can make you do some crazy things especially when you don't have boundaries.You start overstretching your principles.That thing you said you would never take?You take it. The standard you swore you would never bend?You bend it...then bend it again....and again.And somehow, no matter how much you bend, it is still not enough. You keep bending, adjusting, explaining, making excuses. Until one day, you look at yourself and realize…When did I become this person?There is a thin line between love and madness.Have you seen what love can make people do? You can know that your genotype does not match someone else's. You can know the possible consequences. You can have all the information in front of you. And still say,"But I love her."So you go ahead.Are you really thinking about the consequences at that point?Or are you just drowning?Because that's how deep love can take you.It can drown you. The same love that makes you open your heart can also teach you how to close it.Pour your heart into someone and get wounded badly enough, and the next time love comes knocking, you dare not open the door immediately.You peep through the window first....😂 You start asking questions, you become careful, you take your time...You might even become scared of giving love another chance. A wounded lion cannot fight the battles of life the same way.The wound changes something.And that is another dark side of love. or what happens when you hear a lady at Eric Gagua Conference taking about how she had been with someone for years, only to find out that the person is getting married to someone else...?Years of turning down everybody else for a serious relationship to be played like a game of chess..I let out a tear... And you're there thinking,"Wait… Is this not the same person I've been with and trusted"?And that's crazy.The person who once felt like your safe place can suddenly become the reason you don't feel safe anymore. There is also this grey area.Love is supposed to come with empathy, care, kindness, compassion and attention. But what happens when someone is kind but has no empathy?What happens when someone has empathy but isn't kind?What happens when someone can give you money but cannot give you time?They can provide financially but cannot give you attention.They care about you, but they don't know how to show it. And someone will tell you,"You can't have it all."Yes. I know.That's why we're on the dark side of love. Look at Samson.A man who had strength that seemed almost impossible to defeat yet he laid his head on the lap of the woman he felt safe with.And what happened?Delilah cut his hair.The same place that felt like safety became the place where his vulnerability was used against him.Tell me that's not the dark side of love. Love is dark not blackBlack sounds like the absence of lightDark means the light exists but you can't see it from where you are standing... Dark and white.with a pinch of grey... And don't come and tell me everything has to be black and white.There are two sides to every coin.But, on the dark side of love, one side can outweigh, outpunish, out-traumatize, outbeat the other.Kai. And before you tell me to simply be optimistic or pessimistic, that's not even the point. You can be careful.And still get hurt. You can have boundaries.And still get betrayed. You can love correctly.And still meet someone who handles your heart carelessly.Because you cannot always be careful enough. There is a thin line between love and hate.A very thin one. Things can move from "I love you" to "I don't ever want to see you again" faster than we like to admit. So let me hold your hands and tell you this:Love is beautiful.Love is also dangerous. Even the strongest of the strong can fall.The most careful person can get hurt.Even the person who swore, "It can never happen to me," can find themselves standing right in the middle of it. And that…is the dark side of love.Kai. I don't ever want to be on that side.When you enter the dark side of love,It can take a thousand years to find your way back to the light.. Princess Chronicles...

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