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Tessy
Copywriter | poet | creative writer @ Onyibloom kid ventures as a sales representative
Copywriter | poet | creative writer @ Onyibloom kid ventures as a sales representative
Love and independence
<p>I don't understand why people act like a woman wanting to be independent means she doesn't want a relationship.</p><p><br/></p><p>A woman can want love. She can want marriage. She can want a man who provides for her. She can even enjoy being taken care of.</p><p><br/></p><p>And she can still want her own money, her own goals, her own career and her own plans.</p><p><br/></p><p>Those things can exist at the same time.</p><p><br/></p><p>Sometimes when a woman says she wants to be financially independent, people take it as, “I don't need a man.”</p><p><br/></p><p>But that's not always what she's saying.</p><p><br/></p><p>Sometimes she's just saying, “I want to know that I can take care of myself too.”</p><p><br/></p><p>There's a difference.</p><p><br/></p><p>If my partner pays the bills, that doesn't mean I shouldn't have my own money. If he takes care of me, that doesn't mean I should have no idea how to take care of myself. And if I have my own career or source of income, that doesn't mean I don't appreciate what he does for me.</p><p><br/></p><p>I think there's something nice about knowing that you're with someone because you genuinely want to be with them, not because you literally have no other option.</p><p><br/></p><p>And I don't think wanting that makes someone anti-love.</p><p><br/></p><p>You can love someone deeply and still have a life outside of them. You can share your money, your plans, your home and your future without giving up every part of who you are.</p><p><br/></p><p>I don't want independence because I don't want anybody.</p><p><br/></p><p>I want independence because I still want to be me, even when I have somebody.</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe that's the part we need to understand.</p><p><br/></p><p>A woman wanting love doesn't mean she has to stop wanting her own life too.</p>
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