Ode to our Mothers - by Thatdarkwriter

This is a shout-out to Nigerian mothers. Our mothers who traumatize us in the name of discipline.Our mothers who call us whores in the name of correction.Our mothers who insult us so we’ll be perfect for marriage.Our mothers who think disgracing us in front of other kids would keep us from falling out of line.Our mothers that disgrace us for jokes.Our mothers that report us to their friends like we represent everything they’re ashamed of.Our mothers that ruin our reputations in the name of reporting us.Our hypocritical mothers who are angels to the rest of the world but the cause of their daughters’ PTSD. Our mothers who are the loudest when asked to pray for their children and the loudest when cursing their daughters. Our mothers who would cover up rape because they don’t want to face the shame of being related to the girl that got raped.Our mothers who’d hate their daughters for “seducing” their husbands. Meanwhile, the girl never asked for any of this.Our mothers who’d paint their daughters in colors that don’t belong to them because they can’t seem to see the good in them.Our mothers who would always compare us to the “good” cousin that’s the “perfect” daughter. Our mothers who make our homes feel like prison.Our mothers who are the good women and good wives but bad mothers.Our mothers that make us feel like we’re in a competition with them.Our mothers that tormented us as kids and teenagers but suddenly want a relationship with us as adults.But mummy that cannot happen because the time you told me “you’re not my daughter”, still replays in my head.And you guys wonder why girls are not all that close to their mothers.You wonder why some of us can’t stay in the same space as our mothers for long.You wonder why some people would rather not go home. For some people, there might be love at home and for some of us it’s trauma.We’re prisoners in our own homes and we can’t even escape.At every chance we get, we run away from home.Some people would even take drastic measures just to escape their mothers. “Omo tiya ba nife, niya bawi”Personally, I think this saying was created to cover up the evil.There’s a clear line between discipline and torture.There are words my mother has said to me that I’d never forget as I live and breathe. “Oh, she’s training you”“You’re overreacting”Call it what you must, but…..it’s torture to us. I hope you guys will be happy to know that you’ve broken us.Rather than be who we run to, you’re the ones we run from. Well, congratulations. You ruined us.

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