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Meejah✨
Entrepreneur, student, communicator @ Prince Abubakar Audu University
Entrepreneur, student, communicator @ Prince Abubakar Audu University
WHAT IF WE’RE ADDICTED TO BEING UNDERSTOOD
<p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p>Have you ever noticed how badly we want people to understand us?</p><p><br/></p><p>Like, sometimes it’s not even enough for them to know what happened. We want them to understand why we did it, why we said it, why we reacted that way and why, despite how it may look, we actually meant no harm.</p><p><br/></p><p>And when they don’t?</p><p><br/></p><p>Omo, we start explaining. 😭</p><p><br/></p><p>We explain and explain and explain until somehow a simple situation has turned into a full-length documentary about our intentions.</p><p><br/></p><p>But why do we care so much about being understood?</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe because being misunderstood feels like being wrongly seen.</p><p><br/></p><p>You know when someone says, “Oh, so this is the kind of person you are,” and you’re just there thinking, “Ah ah, is that really what you got from all of this?” 😭</p><p><br/></p><p>Sometimes people judge our actions without knowing the thoughts behind them. They see the reaction but not the reason. They hear the words but not the emotions that came with them.</p><p><br/></p><p>And honestly, I think that is one of the hardest things about being human.</p><p><br/></p><p>You can explain yourself perfectly and someone can still choose to misunderstand you.</p><p><br/></p><p>You can tell someone exactly what you meant and they can still interpret it based on their own experiences, expectations and feelings.</p><p><br/></p><p>Which then makes me wonder…</p><p><br/></p><p>Do we really need everyone to understand us?</p><p><br/></p><p>Because the more I think about it, the more I realise that sometimes, trying so hard to make everyone understand you can become exhausting.</p><p><br/></p><p>There are people who will understand you without needing a whole explanation.</p><p><br/></p><p>There are also people who could have the whole explanation and still decide that their version of you is the one they prefer.</p><p><br/></p><p>And maybe that’s okay.</p><p><br/></p><p>I think being understood is beautiful, but constantly needing to be understood can become a trap.</p><p><br/></p><p>Because at some point, you have to be able to say:</p><p><br/></p><p>“I know what I meant. I know who I am. And even if you don’t understand me, I don’t have to keep proving it.”</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe being understood isn’t the problem.</p><p><br/></p><p>Maybe it’s the desperation to be understood by everyone.</p><p><br/></p><p>And as for me?</p><p><br/></p><p>I’m still learning that sometimes, an explanation is enough once. 😌</p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p>
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